Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Examining Submission Journaling Exercise - Day 1

I found this journaling exercise, and decided to work this on the blog. Both because I think it will be an interesting examination of my submission, and can maybe deepen over this deployment, and also to help me when I can't motivate my brain to do anything cause I miss Ward so much I want to lay on the floor, stare into the rain like a turkey and...well....if you know turkeys, you know what I mean.

Does your submission – either what you practice or what you strive for – have a label? Do you view your submission as Taken in Hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, master/slave, owner/pet, or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?

I don't really like labels. They are confining. I've also said on a couple of responses on others' blogs that they kind of make me feel we are out in left field somewhere.  There are lots of aspects to our relationship. Daddy is a Dominant. I am a submissive, so yes we are in a D/s relationship. He is Daddy, and I am his little girl. So we are D/lg. We incorporate discipline and correction into our dynamic, so we are DD. Daddy is the absolute authority, and makes all final decisions, controls the finances etc, so we are a '50s-style household.

We are not Taken-in-Hand, that implies a more assertive  non-Dominant partner. We're not M/s, though I have moved beyond submission to Daddy. There is nothing I would refuse him. But both of us dislike the term slave because of the negative connotations to us personally, though we do not judge anyone else to whom that dynamic speaks.

In all actuality, we dislike labels, because we are a lot of things, but we are mostly just ourselves, and it fits us and it feels good.


  1. Our only labels are husband and wife, in a dd marriage. I don't see a need to label, as you said. But that said I do pay attention to what other people label themselves, as it helps me see how they see their relationship.

  2. Hi Stormy,
    I like that better. People always - well non 'nillas seem to want to know what you are. I usually say we're just us. We are what works for us. I never cared for labels. I think they suit soup cans but not people.

  3. June,

    Would you share where you found the journaling exercise? Thanks.

    One of the things you can do when you are having a turkey in the rain day is go skirt shopping, lol.

  4. Hi Faerie,

    Sure, I got it from a friend on Fetlife, here's the link the the list If you're not a member, I can put the list up for you.

    LOL - indeed - I'mma get me a skirt like that before Daddy gets back from deployment!

  5. Oh, and there is also a running/growing list of submissive journal prompts over at The Submissive Guide, some of them would need to be tweaked a bit for our types of dynamics but it's a starting point:


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