Define "Fair"

No...really,  what does fair mean to you? I ask, because it's  a conversation that Daddy and I have all the time. Sometimes, we'll be wrestling, or tickle-fighting and Daddy, who is a gorgeous behemoth (a mythological beast mentioned in Job 40:15-24. Metaphorically, the name has come to be used for any extremely large or powerful entity.) of a man, will win (do ya think?) and I'll jokingly say to him..."Well, that's not fair!" and he'll say, "I never said it would be fair, I said it would be worth it."

When I first joined blogland, and before we started this blog, I came across Stormy's post - What About Unfair Spankings?, and shortly after, Christina's post When the HoH Makes An Unfair Decision - Final Lessons. I'm sure most of you understand the phenomenon, we see things in blogland that give us talking points in our own relationships, and that helps us to grow and develop our own dynamics. So Daddy and I had, and sometimes continue to have a discussion based on the topic of fairness. The latest round of this discussion was spurred by Pocahontas' post It's Just Not Fair!




My view on the issue surprised Daddy, and continues to surprise him. I actually find him debating with his feet in the "it can be unfair" camp. Again, I will preface this by saying that I'm a bit of an odd bird, and I hope that I do not alienate my friends by saying this, I don't see how, in the kind of relationships we are in, that there can be an 'unfair'. (ducks)


As defined, Fair means:

Adjective In accordance with the rules or standards; legitimate.

Adverb Without cheating or trying to achieve unjust advantage: "he played fair".

When we decide to live our lives under domestic discipline, we sit down with our partners and define what that means within the sphere of our relationship. We define our relationships, and then spend the rest of our lives together refining them.

Each and every one of us has a different dynamic, that's necessary, one size DOES NOT fit all here. We define our rules, many of us have them posted on our blogs, and we define the consequences for not keeping faith with those rules. So, if we break those rules, and he keeps faith within the definition of our relationship, how can we call them unfair?

 





Once, not too long ago, on our terrible, very bad 
weekend, I received a correction. The next day, I got another one...YIKES, June! *Hangs head in shame* - As should be, we discussed the situation that led us there and how to avoid it in the future. In that discussion, Daddy got the idea that the first spanking was unfair, and he apologized. I didn't see why he apologized,  because, as my Daddy... my HoH, he has the right to spank me when he chooses, whether for correction, or simply to remind me of my place in our relationship and reinforce submission. I told him that it was okay, I needed it anyway, as I was stressed. When I told him all of this he said, well yes, perhaps I did NEED to be spanked, but I did not DESERVE to be spanked for the reason he spanked. That brings up another point, as much as they need and deserve our grace in submission, sometimes they need our grace in forgiveness as much as we need theirs.



When we give our men authority over us, we give them authority to spank (well most of us anyway) for correction/punishment and discipline/role-affirmation/stress-relief at the very least (some of us, more reasons). When we do that, we acknowledge their leadership and their right to take us in hand, for the betterment and benefit of our well-being and of our relationships. We acknowledge that authority by virtue of our trust that they have the best interests of us and our relationships at heart.If we question their fairness, or question their right to lead us, is that not calling our trust into question? If we look at the definition above, They are not trying to achieve unfair advantage, they are simply holding both of us to the rules and standards we have established together.

Pocahontas raised many good points in her post. Yes, we are expected to bend, to submit, to accept their decisions with grace. They are expected to shoulder the lion's share of responsibility for our families, all of our well-being, and our interpersonal relationships. Each one of us could say of our own share of the equation that it is unfair. But if we consider the big picture, it is balanced....

Adjective

Keeping or showing a balance; arranged in good proportions. Taking everything into account; fairly judged or presented.

HIS POV:  
As the head of our home, it is my belief that I must act with the deepest prudence and always in the best interest of our relationship. That being said, I know that I don't always get things right, but I also know that giving her what she needs has to take priority over my own desires and ideas sometimes harmony, consistency and a desire to be a source of good govern our house. As it's keeper I must maintain this attitude.  Fairness is a nice concept, but I think it's more important to have clear communications about the expectations of the dynamic.

June is absolutely correct in her explanation of agreed rules and the roles in our dynamic, I am the head of our home and she is my voice, therefore, it falls on my shoulders to ensure that I am not histrionic, too emotionally invested, or blinded by impure motives. It's not always easy and like the rest of us I, too, make mistakes.  Mistakes can teach us a lot of things if we but have the wisdom to learn from them. 

I will also say that I think there is still a world of difference between what is right and what is fair. I strive to do what is right by my family. I strive to do what is right by our children and our home... This is not always easy or comfortable and sometimes I do have to make unpopular decisions or make unpopular rules, but I do so with the best interest of my loved ones in mind... Oh.. and one other thing,  June will tell you, I never ever once promised that I would be fair  (a bit HoHy aren't I?)

Maintenance, Discipline, and Stress Relief

                                                                         

  June will tell you that she gets spanked every day. Often times two or three times a day.  Some of you may have a hard time believing that such a good, sweet girl  would require such frequent attentions... The truth is that June and I view maintenance and discipline a bit different than most.  We have found that daily spankings help keep us both where we need to be physically and mentally and we have both found that our relationship benefits deeply from this.  Besides being DD, we are both spanking enthusiasts and find spanking alluring, and we find them to be a soothing source of stress relief and a source of inspiration to the betterment of our relationship.

                                                                        

Maintenance even though we don't always call it that is a very special and very intimate way  of connecting and finding the comfort that  can only be found with each other. Yes we like it... Does that make it less DD? Less special? We don't think so.  It is more than a fascination, hobby, or fetish, it really is a way of living and thinking that makes us who we are.  June is hyper vigilant about everything, but especially her communication and the expression of her submission and desire to please me.  I am vigilant in responding to and facilitating her needs.  She honors me with her loving submission and her sweet and wonderful heart.  I try to honor her by being a man she can be proud to call hers.

                                                  

I've noticed that a lot of people seem to mistake or use discipline in conjunction with or interchangeably with correction or punishment.  For us Discipline is a way of refocusing and learning, discipline is very useful for reaching a goal, feeling our places and learning to communicate in a more effective, healthier way.  I just wish that perhaps there wasn't an immediate connection between discipline and punishment.  To some that would be semantics, but I guess I just see things a tad differently. While both valid, correction and discipline should both be used along with clear, focused communication that highlights expectations, encourages growth, and is affectionate and reassuring.

                                

 

                  

                  

                                                                                              

Stress relief comes in many forms. A long soak in a bubble field tub with a glass of wine, A relaxing foot massage, and yes even a good, long, firm spanking.  This world, this life are stressful and sometimes June needs me to help her find the balance in the interim.  Bills, work, kids and any other number of stressors can be handled, the trouble is, sometimes both of us have a knack for letting things "pile up" and then life gets overwhelming. June helps me with this as much as I help her... she's always ready and willing to drape herself across my lap and help me stop stress before it stops us.  Likewise, I'm always ready to give her the attention that she needs, be it  me distracting the kids so she can have some "Mommy Time" sending her out for a manicure/pedicure/massage or just taking time to listen, I've learned that it pays to put stress in it's place before it becomes unmanageable.

                                        

  

             

We've covered many topics on  spanking and have mentioned the differences between type and motivation, but I think sometimes it is good to get further into the many benefits that come along with the DD and spanking lifestyles.  Unceasing affection along with a unasuageable  thirst for fulfilment, growth and actualization.

                                                        

Her POV:
I hope I don't alienate all my new friends, yes, I get spanked every day, at least in the morning, it helps me start the day feeling totally owned, and at bedtime, it helps to blow away the stress of the day so that I can sleep (I have suffered from insomnia for years). Those are not always what some of our community that are strictly DD experience.

They vary in intensity, depends on the day, but there are lots of pauses, rubs and strokes, sometimes kisses and other lovely touches. They help to center me, give me the sense of my place in our relationship, his headship and Dominance, they let me feel safe and loved. For me, those are part of discipline. They firmly establish our roles.

Discipline might also be pulling me back when I start to range, when I feel a little our of control, or when stress is carrying me away... or carrying him away. I've said before that when I see Daddy stressing, I will offer myself to him, either handing him an implement, or simply laying across his lap. These - stress relief spankings- are always very firm, they may or may not bring tears.

 Correction is the only type that I would sell my soul to avoid. And not because of the level of spanking, but because I have behaved in a manner less than my man and/or my family deserves. In all ways I strive to represent myself, my Daddy and my family in a manner that brings him the honor that he deserves. When I have not done so, Daddy is far more gentle and forgiving with me than I am with myself. I may not like them, or want to earn them, but I am grateful that he loves me enough to provide them, so that we can clear the air and put those moments of being less behind us. He has never brought up one of those moments after they have passed- ever.

All in all, the ones I need, the ones I want, and the ones I deserve, I am grateful to Ward's diligence to our relationship, and for his insight and empathy in understanding what I need, what keeps me even, what keeps me feeling the way that I want to feel. I enjoy feeling submissive to him, I enjoy knowing that I am always under the shelter of his hand.

Submission and Obedience - An HoH's View

                                                                                   


                                                                                                  


I think June has expressed the fullness and complexity of her submission in many splendid and beautiful ways. It has come to my attention that perhaps it might be high time that I weighed in on a subject so precious and complex.  When we where getting acquainted, June and I spent hours of time just talking.  We shared ideas, shared stories (I will post more sometime, I promise) and talked well into the wee hours of the night/morning just getting to know how the other thought. June truly does have a submissive, giving heart and a genuine will to please.   I have come to understand that what we share is a rare and beautiful jewel of a gift, something to take pride in, something to protect, something to burnish, and polish until it shines brighter than diamonds.



                                             


I think when we were in the initial phases of our relationship, it took some getting used to for me.  Here she was the first truly pure soul that I have ever known.  When our relationship went beyond the simple cozy phase to the 'Wow this is the one truly love phase' it didn't take long for us to fall into our respective rolls with relish and joy.  Dominance, even in the most domestic sense has always been something that is natural for me, it's just like falling off a log or making love, or laughing in the rain.  June is again, a natural submissive and I imagine it must be  much the same,  like laughing or like enjoying a warm sunny day.  I'm sure you have heard her say it several times, but in many ways June and I feel very blessed to have  experienced this lifestyle almost by default.  You may know or have well guessed that June and I also happen to be spanking enthusiasts, but it's more than that. Our relationship thrives off of the structure, and support that Domestic Discipline brings and promotes. We are open and honest with each other, and we love each other enough to hold each other accountable and to listen even when it isn't simple or easy.

Understanding June's submissive nature has led to the many delightful discoveries. One of the things I take such a joy in is her obedience. I guess it might sound funny to read in this day and time, but one of the things I take pride in besides (well everything) is how she expresses her love and devotion to me and our relationship by working hard to be obedient.  I know it can't always be easy and that there are many complex and beautiful factors at work here. To obey and serve another is amongst the highest of callings and to be loved by one so diligent, pleasing and genuinely interested touches me more and more every day.  It truly does make a man feel like Royalty, and you all know that I try to make her feel like the Queen that she is. So many beautiful things we have discovered, chiefest among them are:



An honesty unparalleled (even when one of us may not like hearing what is said)
A love unfettered
A lightness of mind
A similarity of thought process
A  beauty and richness of soul and a open free heart


Well there are other things that we have discovered... but those are for us... sorry not sharing (grin)


                                                                    



                                                                               

June's beautiful gifts of submission and obedience are straight from the heart and in reciprocity, I give her my strength , my love and my devotion... we may just be regular every day folk, but together  we are something greater...




                                                        




Her POV

Daddy tells me all the time that he is pleased, and that I am his good girl, but to tell you the truth, to see it in concentrated form...I'm sitting here with tears rolling down my cheeks.

Ward is a strong, gentle and honorable man. As we talked and got to know each other better, I felt myself opening to him more and more. I suspect that it was very new for both of us. I was never received in the way that he received me. It encouraged me to be more expressive of my nature.

I am - as you've heard me say before - just me, but I have been told that I am a natural submissive. It is not as much of an effort for me to submit as it is for me to be the strong one, the one in control - which is the position I had repeatedly found myself in in prior relationships. With Daddy, it was a folding into him, it was being accepted for the first time ever and being able to just be who I was.

To be able to anticipate his needs, and to see that look on his face, and feel what it does for him, to be able to stretch myself and give him the things that he wants, fulfills me in ways that are very hard to describe. It is a peace, a quiet of the heart and soul, a sense of completeness and a joy I have never known.

I am honored to belong to this warm and giving man, I revel in being able to submit to him in joy, and as the photo at the top of our blog says, I will follow him anywhere and I will always have his back.

For Anonymous- Redux

We are mature enough to realize that not everyone will agree with our view for our relationship. We accept other people and their ideology, and respect their right to differ and to have their own truths.  We are open to respectful discourse on the subjects we post here. We leave our blog open to anonymous comments because many newcomers to this community do not have blogs yet, or do not wish to have blogs, but wish to converse with other members of the community to share support. We will not disable comments from anonymous posters for this reason. They generally have the courage to identify themselves with a signature.

Anonymous, you have chosen to come and not simply share your views or concerns, but to try to convert, to push your agenda, to call my man an abuser, and to call me a sick, weak, mentally deficient woman (the view with which you attempted to blanket the whole of this community). If you come here to learn a different point of view, not that you have to embrace it, but just that you wish to understand it, you are welcome. If you continue to leave the kind of comments you left and continue to leave on the Unfair Spankings post, your comments will be removed (the last two comments were in fact removed, not by 'the MAN', but by myself.). And again, I have to wonder if you find this lifestyle so repugnant, why have you come (it surely was not accidental), and why do you stay? Believe me when I tell you that none of the women here need to be 'saved'. I am happier in my life with Ward than in all my cumulative years on earth, and no, that is not the effects of Stockholm Syndrome.

We are open to all manner of discussion here, and we welcome respectfully dissenting views. If you can respect those rules, we are happy to welcome you. If you cannot, well the ladies in this community are aware of what you need, and your commentary will not be entertained. I acknowledge that you have no desire to learn or understand, but in the spirit of the kind of woman I choose to be, one of the women of this great, warm community, I offer you the opportunity to educate yourself. Clint has an excellent discussion on Spanking vs. Abuse: Clearing Up Misconceptions, and Old Fashioned Marriage has an outstanding post on what our submission brings to our marriages, Surrendering Your Bunch of Keys. Additionally our Favorite Posts From Other Blogs page has many exemplary posts that illustrate the richness of our lives.

If you choose to accept the conditions for participation here, welcome. If you choose not to, we wish you well, but do not return.

HIS POV: 
I think June has already done a terrific job of accurately assessing this situation. I have thought long and hard about what I wanted to say here, and I will admit at first I was very angry, but now, now I'd just like to say that I feel sorry for you Anonymous.  It's very clear that you came here spewing hate and judgement all over something that you don't and cannot understand.

June is the apple of my eye and I'm sure every HoH will tell you the same about his woman. I'm also inclined to inform you that when you attack her you'd better be ready  to be held accountable.  My June and her honor are two things that I will staunchly defend against ignorant, hateful bigots like you. 

I must also say that this is a place designed, and built upon the ideas of unconditional love first, and true devotion and eternal companionship. So before you go spouting off about things you know nothing about, first and foremost understand that by attacking us, you've also insulted our brothers and sisters and that dog won't hunt. 

I wish you well Anonymous, hope you are leading a blessed life and that you are loved and well.  It is my fondest wish for you to understand that you can't make me angry anymore, you'll only find pity here and your venomous words will only be deleted.  Live well, and be blessed, but be assured you have no voice here.  Oh and once again have a nice day. 

To our readers, I apologize if I come off a bit brusque, but I won't let ignorance flourish here.  We promise the next post will be of a bit more even tone!

Seeking Perfection

I have a friend (do you, June, do you really? - yes I really do) - a DD friend. She says sometimes that she feels inferior. I tell her that she shouldn't everyone has their own path, that Ward and I started our relationship this way, not like her and her Daddy who changed after 14 years of marriage, and that I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination. I am just blessed with a strong Daddy, who is capable of handling my imperfections, and loving me still more and deeper when we come out on the other side. So, I thought I should share a tale that shows just how very human I am.

Daddy and I had a rough weekend.I've only been corrected twice in our time together. I was corrected twice this weekend. The first time for distancing....*head shaking* oh, June, not again...yes, again - sigh - it's a process....yes it is my greatest struggle. And because this is not the first time, Ward wanted to make a point, and he did...strenuously.






Yesterday, Daddy said something that struck that both feet down, brakes in the dirt kind of reaction.So thinking back to the Saturday, I thought, okay, no hesitation, immediate response, and I bypassed my filters, crossed my arms, put my nose in the air and said 'Fine!' (I see you all cringing...I did too, but I was going for broke here...it was a test of the Unfiltered Broadcast System which apparently is in no way connected to any system of survival...you see where this is going right?) Daddy said, "When a lady says fine it is most certainly anything but."






Just a little background. Because of my background, I have a fear that one day he will wake up and see 'the real me' the one that seems so easy to walk away from, that there is something inside of me that surfaces at some point, less than the sum of who I am. So, snarky June (yes, June can be snarky - sighs ashamedly) said, "Well, you may as well see the real me." And Daddy replied, "Perhaps I should see the real you, but be prepared for a real reaction." I was, I knew what would happen, I certainly didn't expect him to back down from disrespect because of hurt feelings or anything. Believe it or not, I knew exactly what I was doing (just maybe not why in that moment) and I knew exactly what he would do. He did not disappoint.


Many spanks, many implements, and some baby oil later, a very emotionally rung out little girl lay in her Daddy's arms. I apologized for my disrespect, I told him that I expected no less than what had happened, and that it wasn't the real me...but it was the unfiltered me. I am not always immediately the sweet, sunny June. It takes work. I have to suppress all kinds of....unworthy emotions sometimes. I explained that I may sometimes hesitate, or pull back just a little, but it's not trying to shut him out, it's me trying to process, running a gut check, and running knee jerk responses through my filters trying to be his good girl.

Daddy said he understood that and he owed me an apology for spanking me the day before. I said he didn't, I needed it anyway. He said he did owe me an apology, while I did need it, it was not for the reason it was given. I don't think it was unjust, and I don't think it was unfair. I broke one of our fundamental rules in the way it was established and defined. We've done a lot of talking, and we've refined that rule. Daddy will allow me time to process, and I will try to let him know that's what's going on so he's knows I'm not drifting away.

So it was a very not very good, bad, terrible, emotionally draining weekend, BUT, we gained new insight, and tons of new understanding and closeness. And I faced one of my deepest fears, that Daddy would see me at my worst and find me untenable. But he didn't. Daddy always said, don't make me chase you, little one, I'll only love you harder. And he did. Sometimes our worst, most fearful moments turn into the most successful trust-building exercises.

HIS POV: 
June is my greatest achievements in life, and yes, sometimes the growing and learning process can be a painful one.  This weekend taught both of us many valuable lessons to remember and use on our journey. Sometimes an HoH has to recognize when he has been wrong, and own it. I also think Ms. June learned that I will never, never stop loving her. No matter what she says or does, she has me as her biggest fan and I love her more every day.  With discipline, patience and  a dedication to not just me, not just her, but us, I think it is possible for us to reach new levels of love and communication.

What I get out of it

One of the most beautiful gifts that June ever gave me was the gift of her submission.  Through communication, diligence and just knowing the amazing lady that she is, I have found that our lifestyle, TTWD, and the occasional (usually daily) spanking gives her the things she needs to be able to thrive and be the most happy.  The honored (and it is a true honor) position of being the head of our home is one that I find humbling and beautiful. When she submits to me it gives me purpose... makes me stronger...  If there's one thing that bolsters me more than anything it's the sweet softness that she graces me with and leaves me in charge of.

She makes me want to be the best man I can be for her and her submission makes me see the world in a different light.  Sometimes I play the roll of fixer, teacher, doctor, or disciplinarian, but though I wear many hats, I think the true source of power for any couple is always love.  Through love we found ourselves and I think that is the answer to "What does the spanker/HoH/Top get out of it".  I really can't answer for other men, but I think for me it is the chance to be what I have always been, the chance to help something beautiful grow into something intangible to others, to watch our sons grow into strong, intelligent men, to be the difference in a world that has often times left me feeling like I had no place... until June. The ability to lead and guide and make a difference to three very special people who have changed my life for the better.

 Being the HoH is one of the greatest things I have achieved, I guess the way that it can best be put is that it "Feels like home"  Some of the other elements that make our love, our relationship all the brighter is our constant communication and a physical openess that is different than most other couples.  We are constantly holding hands or near each other.  Sometimes a perfect night ends with us holding hands on the couch or me gently rubbing her tired feet or gently massaging her calves.  Touch is a powerful thing and even beyond the obvious a physical connection is a very powerful thing.  Sometimes after a hard day she rubs my back and even if I have had the worst day ever it turns me into a unapologetic romantic. 











I guess we differ than some DD couples in that we have a deep, deep passion for spanking.  In addition to discipline, and stress relief we have found that it is actually a relationship enhancer for both of us.  She handles things better when she is spanked regularly and for both of us it enforces our roles within our relationship in  a healthy and beautiful way.










In closing I'll say it again... to June, to you all... What do I get out of this?  My answer?  Everything.


Her POV:
Ward honors me with his words. And again, there exists this lovely reciprocity. His dominance allows me to submit, my submission allows him to lead. And it is comfortable, and he IS my home. We are a little different than some other DD couples, I suppose, in that we are spankos. I DO need it and often. It does help me to deal with things more effectively, calmly.

Does being spanked feel the same to me as it does to some other women? Heck yeah, it hurts. And in the moment I may wonder what I was thinking. My need is more about the things that surround it. It's feeling my place, feeling his guidance, it's feeling his dominance, it's being able to let go and be vulnerable to him, it's letting go of the things that eat away at confidence and serenity.

At the heart of it, both of us are deeply spiritual. We both believe that the design of the creator is for the male energy to lead, to assume headship, and for the female energy to submit, to follow, to be helpmeet. We believe that this does not preclude communication, or reciprocity in a genuine listening to each other, deference, respect, genuine deep affection and love. We believe that we are charged with nurturing and giving to the world two people who will bring betterment to it. We believe that the creator, in an ultimate act of kind and loving generosity gave us each to the other, us and our children.

Thank you, my love, for sharing your heart, and your words, and for answering my questions. I love our communication. And I love you.

Movie time with Ward and June

 It's time to talk about spanking videos.  I've actually wanted to do this post a little sooner than I am posting it, but  I guess there's no time like the present!  Along with many other spanking lifestylers I have developed a taste (or distaste in certain instances) for spanking videos. Today I thought I'd share a few of the things that I like and dislike about spanking videos both amateur and professional.Grab some popcorn and join us.

You may have noticed that professionally produced videos seemed to follow a certain stylized format.  Usually it's the same guys or girls in a series of movies, many of which seem a bit over the top or contrived. There are several big name producers but I think the most famous of which is probably Shadowlane.

You may have also run across more "homestyle" videos from couples on webpages like Spankingtube and spanking library.  These videos tend to be a bit more "real life" or in many cases "DD" oriented. 


Let's talk about the pros and cons of each....


Here are some of the Pro's of the professionally produced videos:
- Usually the lighting and sound are superior to that of amateur video makers
- The editing is usually seamless
- There is usually a video or video producer for every taste across the spanking genre
- Usually longer with a better variety of spanking and with many implements



Here are some of the Cons of the professionally produced videos:

- Terrible acting
- Unecessary predictable dialog
- Contrived circumstances
- Same actors and actresses in many videos
- Unrealistic presentation of the ideal spanking partner(s) you know, most of the produced videos have their spankee presented as some 19-22 year old waif without real curves and most of the men presented are the definitive stodgy old businessman types or the crumudgeon-like senior citizen.
- Hotel-like or obviously un-authentic backgrounds that look as contrived as the writing and acting.



Here are some of the Pros of the amateur videos:
- Authentic lifestyle interactions
- Real men and women presented in a true to life setting
- Passion
- Variation
- Inovation

Here are some of the Cons of the amateur videos:
- Bad cameras and editing
- usually a short duration
- Many times in amateur videos the background is a little more than lived in, the house is a mess or the room looks like a hydrogen bomb detonated
- The gentlemen in amateur videos often time wear any old thing (ratty old gym shorts, ugly t-shirts, baseball caps that look like they have been worn since the begining of time)



Spanking videos are a fun, and in many cases inexpensive expression of the spanking lifestyle. They are a good way to explore fantasies, share ideas, and discover new ones. I would encourage you all to take a look and see what you and your partner can find.  You never know what you might find.

Her POV
I agree with a lot of what Daddy said. I would add that I especially dislike contrived scenes. Perhaps that is because we live this 24/7, and as we have said before there are many reasons and many forms spanking takes for us.

I dislike that there always have to be a correctable 'offense' for which the spanking is given. I dislike wimpy spankers - take charge. I dislike brutish spankers - you can take charge without being verbally abusive. I dislike mouthy spankees. I dislike overacting - he only swatted you twice and you're carrying on like that? And for the love of Pete, keep your hands and feet out of the way, you signed up for this. And puh-leeeeeeeeeze - no female spankers, and certainly no male spankees. 

In real life sometimes it is a prelude to iintimacy. Sometimes it is just because, which incidentally is our favorite reason. Sometimes it is stress relief for either of us. Sometimes I just want to feel his ownership. What is wrong with portraying that? Why can't the spanker just hold out his hand for no other reason than he wants to? Why can't the spankee come and say, "Could you spank me, please?" All in all I think that gives people the wrong impression of our lifestyle. But then, I'm just one small, happy little girl with a red bottom :)

Gratuitous Spanko Thoughts...

It's good to be a spanko...sometimes.   With that in mind I would ask you good readers a few questions.

A few questions for the spankishly inclined....

- What about spanking "does it" for you?
- Is there a favorite time of day to spank or be spanked?
- Is there a celebrity that you would love to spank or be spanked by?
- Do you have a favorite video (separate topic forthcoming)

I just thought I'd ask, because at the core of it all me and June are in fact spanking enthusiasts, and yes we enjoy it immensely!  I plan on including a bit more spanking-type content in the coming weeks if for no other reason than "just because"  (which may be the greatest reason for spanking ever).  



I suppose I'd better answer my own questions...

- What about spanking "does it" for me?  short answer: everything... I love the sound, the intimacy, the closeness, the bond it creates, it's awfully sexy, and I  know it's shocking, but I've always "had a thing" for round plump female rear ends.



- Is there a favorite time of day to spank or be spanked?  yes?!

- Is there a celebrity that you would love to spank:   hmmm I'd say so, a few  in no particular order:
Vida Guerra, Scarlett Johansson, Sofia Varga, Beyonce, and of course Jennifer Lopez.

- Videos are a rough spot with me, I'll explain in a future post.


Happy Spanking folks!

Her POV:

Well,I've said it before, and I'll say it again..... My name is June and I'm a spanko :) No Twelve-Step program, thank you. I'm quite happy being me.

So I guess, I should answer Daddy's questions, too...cause I'm a good girl and all....

What does it for me? Good golly Ned! Ummmm, just the thought, the look, when I know what he is thinking about, I'm not averse to asking, but it is faint-worthy hearing, "Come here, little girl." (is it getting warm in here,or is it me?). The sound of his belt coming through the loops, the bounce of the paddle on warmed-up cheeks, the caress of his fingers over sensitive flesh, snuggling into his chest in the after....many more things, but I'm getting twiterpated.

Is there a favorite time of day? Ummmm, is there a time of day that I don't wish to be across his lap?

Who would I like to spank? LOL, I'm not the spanker, I'm the spankee. Be  spanked by? Only Daddy. As far as discipline, I have only one authority to whom I submit. And for play, only Daddy gets into my head, he has this incredible magnetism - delicious!

And videos, yeah, that's a topic for another day. Love you, Daddy :D