Friday, October 19, 2012

Submission and Obedience - An HoH's View



I think June has expressed the fullness and complexity of her submission in many splendid and beautiful ways. It has come to my attention that perhaps it might be high time that I weighed in on a subject so precious and complex.  When we where getting acquainted, June and I spent hours of time just talking.  We shared ideas, shared stories (I will post more sometime, I promise) and talked well into the wee hours of the night/morning just getting to know how the other thought. June truly does have a submissive, giving heart and a genuine will to please.   I have come to understand that what we share is a rare and beautiful jewel of a gift, something to take pride in, something to protect, something to burnish, and polish until it shines brighter than diamonds.


I think when we were in the initial phases of our relationship, it took some getting used to for me.  Here she was the first truly pure soul that I have ever known.  When our relationship went beyond the simple cozy phase to the 'Wow this is the one truly love phase' it didn't take long for us to fall into our respective rolls with relish and joy.  Dominance, even in the most domestic sense has always been something that is natural for me, it's just like falling off a log or making love, or laughing in the rain.  June is again, a natural submissive and I imagine it must be  much the same,  like laughing or like enjoying a warm sunny day.  I'm sure you have heard her say it several times, but in many ways June and I feel very blessed to have  experienced this lifestyle almost by default.  You may know or have well guessed that June and I also happen to be spanking enthusiasts, but it's more than that. Our relationship thrives off of the structure, and support that Domestic Discipline brings and promotes. We are open and honest with each other, and we love each other enough to hold each other accountable and to listen even when it isn't simple or easy.

Understanding June's submissive nature has led to the many delightful discoveries. One of the things I take such a joy in is her obedience. I guess it might sound funny to read in this day and time, but one of the things I take pride in besides (well everything) is how she expresses her love and devotion to me and our relationship by working hard to be obedient.  I know it can't always be easy and that there are many complex and beautiful factors at work here. To obey and serve another is amongst the highest of callings and to be loved by one so diligent, pleasing and genuinely interested touches me more and more every day.  It truly does make a man feel like Royalty, and you all know that I try to make her feel like the Queen that she is. So many beautiful things we have discovered, chiefest among them are:

An honesty unparalleled (even when one of us may not like hearing what is said)
A love unfettered
A lightness of mind
A similarity of thought process
A  beauty and richness of soul and a open free heart

Well there are other things that we have discovered... but those are for us... sorry not sharing (grin)


June's beautiful gifts of submission and obedience are straight from the heart and in reciprocity, I give her my strength , my love and my devotion... we may just be regular every day folk, but together  we are something greater...



Daddy tells me all the time that he is pleased, and that I am his good girl, but to tell you the truth, to see it in concentrated form...I'm sitting here with tears rolling down my cheeks.

Ward is a strong, gentle and honorable man. As we talked and got to know each other better, I felt myself opening to him more and more. I suspect that it was very new for both of us. I was never received in the way that he received me. It encouraged me to be more expressive of my nature.

I am - as you've heard me say before - just me, but I have been told that I am a natural submissive. It is not as much of an effort for me to submit as it is for me to be the strong one, the one in control - which is the position I had repeatedly found myself in in prior relationships. With Daddy, it was a folding into him, it was being accepted for the first time ever and being able to just be who I was.

To be able to anticipate his needs, and to see that look on his face, and feel what it does for him, to be able to stretch myself and give him the things that he wants, fulfills me in ways that are very hard to describe. It is a peace, a quiet of the heart and soul, a sense of completeness and a joy I have never known.

I am honored to belong to this warm and giving man, I revel in being able to submit to him in joy, and as the photo at the top of our blog says, I will follow him anywhere and I will always have his back.


  1. Such lovely tributes to each other - it really warms my heart. Thank you so much for sharing. Have a wonderful weekend.


    1. Thanks so much, Cat. I hope you have a wonderful, joyous weekend, too :)

  2. What a beautiful love story. Thanks for sharing it with us, and making us smile. May God continue to bless you both, Belle L.

    1. Thanks very kindly, Belle, for the kinds words and the blessings, both are definitely appreciated:)

      Bail ó Dhia ort

  3. Being obedient is something i want to do, i like doing as im told because i like to be dominated but mostly i like pleasing him and it pleases him when im obedient. Thats not to say i always am, i have my moments and im held accountable for them.

    Its very obvious from your writing how close and connected you both are and thats wanderful.


    1. Mmmmhmm, tori, my experience is the same. I enjoy watching my obedience wash over him, and seeing in his demeanor and his eyes and his tone that he is pleased. But, yes we all have our moments, lol.

      I have never felt for another person what I feel for Ward. We were truly meant for each other.

  4. So beautiful and sweet. It is a privilege to get a little glimpse into a relationship like this. <3

    1. Thanks so very kindly for your sweet comment. It is a privilege to know our friends in this community.

  5. I always feel so much love over is beautiful. I wish I could be so obedient to Ian, he deserves it and I don't make any of this easy. We haven't been doing this for very long, but I sure that Ian and I can get to a place like this someday. Thanks for sharing and modelling how wonderful it can be.
    love and hugs

    1. I feel a kinship, Lillie :) Thank you for your sweet words. He truly takes my breath away. I do think we had an advantage because we came into our relationship like this. I imagine it is much harder to make a decision to enrich your relationship and decide to undertake DD and change your dynamic. I have a great deal of respect for anyone who does it. I think you will, Lillie. I see that you shine :)

      Love, hugs, & Bail ó Dhia ort

  6. @Cat - Thanks for taking time to read! Hope you have a marvelous weekend too!
    @Belle L - God renews his blessing every second of every hour of every day!
    @Tori - Thanks for reading, June's submissive nature and gifts of obedience and submission truely enhance our relationship!
    @HisLilAngel - Smiles, it is an honor for you to read our blog, thank you *Tips his topper*
    @Lill Ian - Smiles, I'm sure you and Ian can grow beautiful and strong... just as you are... thanks for reading big hugs right back at ya!


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