One of the subjects that I am surprised that we haven't touched on yet is a simple but beautiful part of our everyday life and we hope with a fondness that it is an integral part of yours as well. I'm talking about having fun of course! I have noticed that June and I seem to have more fun than some of our vanilla contemporaries and I wonder if that is a nice side effect of DD and communication or if it's just us. Either way It would be hard for me to deny the warm, tingly feeling that I get when I hear the musical sound of her laughter.
In this day and age, there are many unkind realities that I believe contribute to some of the many problems that couples face. There's always something: Finances, Work, School, The Kids, and unfortunately sometimes a combination of any of these. June has taught me that life truly begins the moment I come through the door from work and spend those precious hours with our family.
The impact of fun in our life is undeniable. Every day and in every way, fun seems to sneak in, even when we least expect it. Even when I am stressed she is quick to come up with beautiful and outstanding ways to take my mind off of things... I mean who needs a vacation when you've got someone as beautiful and inventive as June is.
I would encourage you to find that special level of beauty and laughter in your relationship. The years will fade and the flames of love will be nourished by the undying fuel of your laughter and companionship.
Her POV:
Fun is undeniably a commodity in which a lot of people do not invest. We love to spend long summer afternoons filling water balloons for that 15 minute all out war on the lawn, or hose fun while watering or washing the car or the outside of the house. We can hold two screaming children at bay for ...what, Daddy, 15 minutes?It doesn't have to involve money, just time, and love, making cookies, pizza, or seitan together. Wrestling matches on the floor, run by tickle fights (though I must tell you that Ward CHEATS! He is 6'4" and he has this massive arm span - think the little hawk in the Foghorn Leghorn cartoon that Foghorn plants his hand on Henry's head & holds him off when Henry tries to march in and fails - sigh).
Honestly I have laughed more in my time with Ward than I have in all the years of my life combined. We find joy in the smallest of things. And yes, I do look for ways to delight Ward and bring that absolutely delicious deep chuckle. And I like to be creative in finding fun ways to do things. And at the end of the day, there is nothing better than being a family pile on the sofa watching a show or movie or playing a game.
oh, what a nice post! yes, we have lots of fun. just rolling around and giggling and telling funny stories or MAKING them up even... and i LOVE giving BIKSS a raspberry under his arm, on the side of his rib cage, usually cos that's where i've buried my head as we're lying in bed :) he's always rather amused that i like doing that so much, and looks down at me with a strange grin on his face.
ReplyDelete"June has taught me that life truly begins the moment I come through the door from work and spend those precious hours with our family."
ReplyDeleteWhat a gift. What a beautiful post.
Our boys are older now, so the wrestling matches that happen are NOT wanted! LOL. Barney is the most ticklish of us all, and since I pinched a nerve in his shoulder wrestling years ago, I'm not allowed to wrestle,( er attack) him anymore. But I still like to play and tease!
No one makes me a laugh like him (accept when he turns into Pun King....collective groan from three of us, the 10 year old still finds it funny ..lol)
@ Fondles - I love giving lady June raspberries all over, and I just love making her giggle!
ReplyDelete@ Wilma Rubble - smiles, one of these days I'm sure the boys will probably lose intrest in their dear old dad, but I love wrestling with June... She's right... I do cheat!
Well Ward, there is good news, ( approved ) wrestling has moved on, but it has been replaced with Silly Dancing,( with Mom) and lively and often hilarious debates! Um, talking about the boys, not Barney!--although I guess that is true to.
ReplyDelete@ Wilma Rubble - That's awesome! ^_^
ReplyDeleteThis is truly a lovely comment on a couple in love and a happy, happy family. What ever you two are doing - you are doing it right. Ward, I am always deeply touched by the love letters you write to your wife. I can't imagine how they must feel to her. :)
ReplyDeleteQuietly awed, grateful and evermore in love, Lillie :)
DeleteI agree 100% that Fun and Laughter help make for a great marriage relationship. Life is hard and so you have to be able to laugh and have fun and especially with the people you love. Nice post:)
ReplyDeleteAgreed...what a nice post. The fruit of all the hard work is the natural fun times, all the simple stuff where we find joy.
ReplyDeleteLovely post Ward, I agree with Lillie, you guys have such a wonderful, loving relationship.
ReplyDeleteWe do have a lot of fun. I wonder too if that is a nice side effect of Dd - the greater communication and deeper connection and greater harmony in general within the relationship all contribute to more fun. It's amazing how the mundane, every day tasks when tackled together don't seem so mundane for example.
I stopped laughing shortly after my marriage....instead I have mostly cried and now I am in survival mode....I feel better when he's not around! I gave up most of what gave me joy and happiness to try to make up for the fact my mother-in-law died. My husband rarely kisses me and does not seek out my hand to hold at all. It makes me sad. I am really happy that all of you are filled with happiness.
ReplyDelete(((hugs))) sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear that you are living like this. I did that before Ward, giving more and thinking if I gave more I'd be seen as worthy and start getting something - anything back. It didn't work.
DeleteI can't make it better, but I can lend my ear if you need someone to listen, and maybe provide some resources. And of course, if you would like Ward's POV, I'm sure he'll be happy to listen as well. Our email is Ward_June@ymail.com, and there is also a link at the top right for it.
Blessings,
June
@Lill Ian - Thank you so very much, We are truley blessed!
ReplyDelete@SNP - Laughter and Love are in fact the best medicine
@Susie - It is a beautiful continuing effort, and the fun and laughter we share is beautiful
@Roz - Thanks! it all comes back to balance and communication
@Anonymous - So sorry to hear that, It aches to hear of such sadness and I wish you the very best!
Wonderful! Marriage bliss is definitely not only about serious rules and punishment and the size of the spending budget - its about sharing on all levels. Too old to have fun? NEVER! And who better to have fun with than the one you married. You guys set a good example - keep playing together. You are inspiring your readers.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much, OFM, we had us a great giggle/chuckle fest the other night, laughing so hard we were crying over such silly stuff, but it was amazing fun. We speak all the time of enriching our relationship, because we're in the end, all we've got, and that's everything in the world, isn't it? And what better way than with laughter?
DeleteI love this post from you two! I agree that fun is such an essential part to a relationship. I think that in a way, Cael and I have learned to have more fun since starting ttwd. The dynamic is just so involved and serious at times, that we need that lightness and laughter to counter it. We do tickle fights too, but the unfair part for US is that Cael is not ticklish...the horror! ;)
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you two can have lots of fun as well.
Thanks, Riley :) What should we do with the cheating men? Chin/palm - not much choice but to take it- sigh
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