Bottoms up! (Presentation)

                                                        
  I know it's hardly a shocking topic on a spanking blog, but I'd like to talk about the female bottom for a few minutes and how something seemingly obvious can have a great if not so subtle impact in our DD/TTWD lives and our romantic imaginations.

    

                                                           

 Again, I suppose I won't win any awards for originality, and I probably won't shock anyone here, but to put it mildly, I've always had a "thing" for the female derriere.  The bare female bottom is one of nature's many works of art and in appreciating it's obvious beauty there is much to be gained and gleaned from it's care and treatment. The female derriere is round, soft, and perfectly suited for the tasks that it is designed for.  Sitting, standing, and even walking.   The glutes are a very strong and resilient muscle group that make life as we all know it possible and better.  Besides it's obvious utility, the bottom is a visual indicator of health, vitality, fertility and femininity. 

                                

 

More important than merely just being an object to be squeezed, swatted, belted, smacked, squeezed or caressed.  In baring and exposing the bottom for correction or discipline, squeezing and rubbing after vigorous attention, or just affectionately cupping and caressing it, we are expressing love, affection and gratitude to the wonderful person we call ours. Our expressions of gratitude speak to the unique bond that we create as couples.  These intimate expressions are obviously a two edged sword that requires many many layers of honing, maintenance, and dedication.  From the dominant side of things, witnessing this dedication, this devotion, this submission in an active display is a marvelous gift that can enhance DD/TTWD, and maximize the benefits that we gain from this important time that we share. 

                                                    


The presentation of a tantalizing tush to one's dominant half is I'm sure a trepidatious thing. The fact is, ladies, many of you have been flim-flammed, hoodwinked, hornswaggled, and/or bamboozled by the media. As a man I know that you may have body image issues.  Magazines bombard with false promises, television  and movies deride true femininity and confuse healthy masculine energy with aggression, immaturity, ignorance, and haplessness.  Presentation can mean wearing his  favorite pair of panties,  approaching him for an expression of his dominance,  voluntarily positioning yourself  in a way that highlights your submission and places you at his full exposure.  I realize these things can be humbling (not humiliating) and that as with anything worth doing, that this may well take some time and effort, but the presentation of the body in a warm, willing way that hungers for the energy of loving partner in honest and true effort to feed the relationship, and stoke the fires of strength/submission  and love.

                                                         

                                                                                    

Spanking just so happens to lend itself to all of the things discussed above. We know that there are of course the "spank-nos" out there and would understand their position, but even they can perhaps see more than a grain of worth in understanding personalized submission, dominance, and the gifts that they can bring to any healthy relationship. Bottom bared and presented for loving attention (discipline, correction, or even fun) can add a beautiful layer to even just the everyday things.  Meaningful glances exchanged in public, quite intimate conversations at the booth at your favorite restaurant... Sometimes the most beautiful gifts are the ones we have to slow down to fully appreciate! Intimacy, laughter, and a deep personal bond that goes beyond something physical is one of those things. We would have you  present each other with the gifts that go along with DD/TTWD, dominance, submission and love... we think you will find that it is well worth the time and effort!

                                                               

Her POV:

The very idea of presenting was something that embarrassed me to the core before Ward. I found something fearful and perhaps a little ....debasing in it.  As our relationship deepened, I found it less and less objectionable. And as we deepened further I found it to be a tangible symbol that I could give to him. When I kneel before him, chest down and bottom up, it says that I belong to him, that he can do anything he wishes to me because I trust him, that I surrender my fears and insecurities to him, that I surrender my heart, mind, body and soul to him.

I enjoy feeling soft and small and surrendered. When I place myself in that position before him it tells him all these truths without a word. Better than words, it speaks to him, I am yours and I am ready for whatever attentions you would choose to gift me. For me now, and in the context of my relationship with Ward, it is a beautiful physical representation of the reciprocity of our natures and commitment to each other.

The Submission Reflex

Because I am who I am, and because I have a need to understand the why...why I am different than most..... why I fit here, why TTWD feeds me, when I look at why I submit I have to understand if there is a biological/physiological/psychological component to submission. Guess what? There is.

We are all familiar with the term "Fight or Flight Response." Heck, many of us experience that response every time we know we have crossed the line and find that we have earned discipline or correction.



So how does fight or flight work? All emotional arousal is received in the amygdala (part of the reptilian brain). In the presence of stress and/or perceived danger sensory data from the thalamus sends sensory information to the hypothalamus, which activates two different body systems. It releases CRF (corticotropin-releasing factor) into the pituitary gland which releases ACTH (adrenocorticotropic hormone) into the bloodstream. ACH arrives at the adrenal cortex (which mediates the body's stress response) and stimulates the release of about 30 different hormones into the blood to prepare the body to deal with the danger.

The hypothalamus also activates the CNS (central nervous system) activating glands and smooth muscles, and releases epinephrine (adrenaline) and norepinephrine. All of this prepares our large muscles to engage, releasing glucose into the blood to fuel those muscles and contracting small blood vessels to divert blood to them (which is why you feel cold), our smooth muscles to relax so we can get more air in our lungs, our pupils dilate to allow more light in, respiration and heart rate and blood pressure increase.

Are you asleep yet? *POKE-POKE-POKEDY-POKE* well wake up! This is where it gets REALLY interesting!

Remember that emotional arousal? Let's look at another path it can take....in the presence of a socially dominant male - marked by things like voice tonality and posture, the scent of testosterone and other pheromones - rather than being interpreted as fear, that arousal is interpreted as attraction! Even though we are not experiencing fear, the physiological response is much the same. Our respiration and pulse accelerate, a tell-tale sign of arousal in women, though is that they will gulp. It is a subconscious reaction to male power,  it is in our make-up. It is a submission reflex. Like most biological/physiological factors, I imagine it is more prominent in some of us and less in others. There are alpha females, they do however bow to the alpha male.



Unconscious submissive gestures include, lowering the eyes, tilting the head down, making the body 'smaller'- in effect, what we would see in the animal word as a less pronounced 'bowing', drawing shoulders in and to the front, arms close to the body and forward with elbows pointed outwards and hands open, the eyes widen signaling vulnerability, gestures and movements will be slow and small to appear vulnerable, voice is  soft and low.

I recognize myself in most of those gestures, without thinking, when Ward turns the key....I'll cover that in another post :)


HIS POV: 
As I would savor June's response to my dominance, I must respond in kind to her submission.  Her beauty, kindness, submissiveness,  femininity, and general lusciousness are things that I delight in.  She opens up to me, and gives me a way in and I see these gestures and her softness and deference speak to the dominance that is within me.

Hormones, coupled with natural response weave our story, a story older than time and more beautiful than an ocean of diamonds.  Her submission is my ambrosia!