I know it's hardly a shocking topic on a spanking blog, but I'd like to talk about the female bottom for a few minutes and how something seemingly obvious can have a great if not so subtle impact in our DD/TTWD lives and our romantic imaginations.
Again, I suppose I won't win any awards for originality, and I probably won't shock anyone here, but to put it mildly, I've always had a "thing" for the female derriere. The bare female bottom is one of nature's many works of art and in appreciating it's obvious beauty there is much to be gained and gleaned from it's care and treatment. The female derriere is round, soft, and perfectly suited for the tasks that it is designed for. Sitting, standing, and even walking. The glutes are a very strong and resilient muscle group that make life as we all know it possible and better. Besides it's obvious utility, the bottom is a visual indicator of health, vitality, fertility and femininity.
More important than merely just being an object to be squeezed, swatted, belted, smacked, squeezed or caressed. In baring and exposing the bottom for correction or discipline, squeezing and rubbing after vigorous attention, or just affectionately cupping and caressing it, we are expressing love, affection and gratitude to the wonderful person we call ours. Our expressions of gratitude speak to the unique bond that we create as couples. These intimate expressions are obviously a two edged sword that requires many many layers of honing, maintenance, and dedication. From the dominant side of things, witnessing this dedication, this devotion, this submission in an active display is a marvelous gift that can enhance DD/TTWD, and maximize the benefits that we gain from this important time that we share.
The presentation of a tantalizing tush to one's dominant half is I'm sure a trepidatious thing. The fact is, ladies, many of you have been flim-flammed, hoodwinked, hornswaggled, and/or bamboozled by the media. As a man I know that you may have body image issues. Magazines bombard with false promises, television and movies deride true femininity and confuse healthy masculine energy with aggression, immaturity, ignorance, and haplessness. Presentation can mean wearing his favorite pair of panties, approaching him for an expression of his dominance, voluntarily positioning yourself in a way that highlights your submission and places you at his full exposure. I realize these things can be humbling (not humiliating) and that as with anything worth doing, that this may well take some time and effort, but the presentation of the body in a warm, willing way that hungers for the energy of loving partner in honest and true effort to feed the relationship, and stoke the fires of strength/submission and love.
Spanking just so happens to lend itself to all of the things discussed above. We know that there are of course the "spank-nos" out there and would understand their position, but even they can perhaps see more than a grain of worth in understanding personalized submission, dominance, and the gifts that they can bring to any healthy relationship. Bottom bared and presented for loving attention (discipline, correction, or even fun) can add a beautiful layer to even just the everyday things. Meaningful glances exchanged in public, quite intimate conversations at the booth at your favorite restaurant... Sometimes the most beautiful gifts are the ones we have to slow down to fully appreciate! Intimacy, laughter, and a deep personal bond that goes beyond something physical is one of those things. We would have you present each other with the gifts that go along with DD/TTWD, dominance, submission and love... we think you will find that it is well worth the time and effort!
Her POV:
The very idea of presenting was something that embarrassed me to the core before Ward. I found something fearful and perhaps a little ....debasing in it. As our relationship deepened, I found it less and less objectionable. And as we deepened further I found it to be a tangible symbol that I could give to him. When I kneel before him, chest down and bottom up, it says that I belong to him, that he can do anything he wishes to me because I trust him, that I surrender my fears and insecurities to him, that I surrender my heart, mind, body and soul to him.
I enjoy feeling soft and small and surrendered. When I place myself in that position before him it tells him all these truths without a word. Better than words, it speaks to him, I am yours and I am ready for whatever attentions you would choose to gift me. For me now, and in the context of my relationship with Ward, it is a beautiful physical representation of the reciprocity of our natures and commitment to each other.
I love to come here. You are both so insightful. It is one of the few blogs I encourage The Man to read, and read he does. Our relationship is much like yours. I always learn something and connect with something that you choose to share. Dana
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for the most lovely compliment, Dana. We're most humbled. We're glad we can give you some talking points, we've gathered many from your blog as well :)
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Being naked was a huge problem for me....then Master helped to understand, just what you have written...for so many things in life...it is the presentation that counts!
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It was for me as well, Daddy is the first one who has ever told me I was beautiful. I believe him, and I do feel beautiful with him, it's just hard to hold onto sometimes. It is not yet ingrained enough to be part of me.
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This is an interesting post! We were just discussing what we were calling - "Breast guys" and "Bum guys"
ReplyDeleteI like what Ward has to say about body image and ones self as well as this amazing quote about the media/movies - "deride true femininity and confuse healthy masculine energy with aggression, immaturity, ignorance, and haplessness"
I completely agree!
Oh gosh, Emi - Daddy is a big time bum guy, lol. He is very passionate about that. He says women have been deceived about their beauty, and because of that have a hard time recognizing and owning their inherent female beauty.
DeleteAmazing June how that Ward always knows what we women are thinking. Body Image is something that is always on my mind. I was a size 7 5fooot 9 perfect figure blond hair green eyes and then the kids came with each one of the four I got a little bigger and after breastfeeding four of them well lets just say things are not where they should be anymore. It amazes me sometimes that hubby is still attracted to me now. Although ive lost weight after each child i will never be a 7 again. It just wont happen but im almost happy where Im at, but I just wonder from a mans perspective, do they miss what they saw 25 years ago. Ward and June you always have me thinking. Sorry bout the long story you just wonder sometimes what men are really thinking not the things they say because they Love us so much. Hugs
ReplyDeleteAh, yes, Annie, but he is one of the exceptional ones, lol. He tries hard to allow me to feel content with my own body, some day maybe I will. I know that the extended periods when I can hold onto that thought, I find it easier to lose weight...maybe because I'm not obsessing and stressing about it.
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This has me thinking as well. I know that I could care less about all the idealized versions of men....not that I don't appreciate a great image. It is just that I do not compare. Why do we women do that to ourselves? I know I do and it is so destructive. I think it is great that you recognize these pitfalls and reassure June, Ward. And June it is so wonderful that you have changed and grown with understanding.
ReplyDeleteI'm not there yet, Minelle, but I'm making a concerted effort.....well of course I am, we all know what the alternative is, lol.
DeleteVery interesting perspective on the female derriere. Ian always seems most appreciative of mine, and I am constantly telling him that it is too plump. He has started to spank for such declarations, he apparently loves it in all it's chubby glory.
ReplyDeleteIt is nice to feel that the natural female form is beautiful and desirable. Thanks for that.
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lillie
Yeah, what's with that, lillie? That happens here too! I get those raised eyebrows, the lip quirked to one side, head inclined and that low drawn out, "looooooovey" which we all know translates to 'tune it up or I'm cooking me some goose!" He loves it it all it's chubby, floppy glory, lol.
DeleteThank you Ward for a beautifully written and insightful post. This one really brought the tears and memories. So many truths here! When things went wrong with my ex, I was more or less forced into position and very much felt humiliated…especially when he ridiculed and itemized all the defects regarding my body (too big here, not big enough there, fat, etc). I hated even looking in a mirror to brush my hair and would avert my eyes when I passed any mirror or reflective surface.
ReplyDeleteAfter meeting Matthew, he worked hard to get me to see that a woman’s body, no matter what the size, shape, or age was a thing of beauty. The constant pats in passing, subtle caresses and loving words all combined so that instead of feeling embarrassed and ashamed of my body, he actually made me feel beautiful!
Matthew refused to force me into any position explaining that by voluntarily positioning myself, I was acknowledging his role and his right. It was humbling but never humiliating. You know I am a spankno but I definitely agree that “personalized submission and dominance” bring invaluable gifts to any healthy relationship.
June…your response to Ward and the growth you’ve experienced is so awesome and your submission to him is such a gift. Thank you both for sharing.
Hugs and Blessings,
Cat
I wish that for you again every night on my knees, Cat. I can't think of anyone who deserves it more.
DeleteI appreciate that for some humiliation feeds them, and in certain of those relationships I can feel the love in the interations. It doesn't feed me, I have been humiliated with the intent to debase most of my life. But I enjoy that humbled feeling, it is as though saying, this is me at my smallest, my plainest and being lifted and treasured for that rawness.
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I echo Dana above - I love to come here! You take a subject that can be quite scary and intimidating and turn it into something beautiful.
ReplyDeleteWhilst I hate the way my body alters due to ageing, there really is nothing I can do about it short of plastic surgery, which I would NEVER have in a million years. But because we are fortunate enough to have been together all our lives, we are growing old together, and our bodies tend to compliment each other these days.
When Starman asked me to start coming to bed nude, it took a bit of courage. But now I am used to it and especially like to spoon with him and feel skin against skin. He puts his arm around me and I feel so safe and secure. I worried no end at the start about what I must look like "bottom up" over his lap. But he rubs my behind lovingly and tells me I'm a silly old thing and that the very thought of me being in that position has now started to turn him on! He will even give me a quick rub with arnica if I look a bit on the sore side - so that is a vast step forward, as I used to worry so much about the fact that I usually bruise with a certain nasty little spatula.
He has always been a 'boobs' man, but is now turning into a 'boobs and butt' man!
And if all else fails and I get the odd uncomfortable vision of my rear end, I just remember what Mick once told me, "You have to laugh sometimes Ami when you imagine a grown woman bottoms up across your knees!" Yeah right! LOL! I do agree, that I would hate to be 'forced' though. Starman is very good. Even if I hesitate and take my time a bit, he knows I will always eventually go to him, implement in hand, because I trust him not to cause me harm. Even if it burns like fire 'during' the event, it rarely bothers me for more than a day afterwards thank goodness.
I hope you will both keep sharing these insightful posts. Thank you.
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Ami
There is nothing better than skin to skin, Ami - one of my favorite sensations!
DeleteI feel beautiful in his presence, honestly and exuberantly. Then I go into the bathroom and look in the mirror and that belief melts like spun sugar in the rain. I see wrinkles and sags (he says he doesn't see them, I offer to take him to the eye doctor - I get swatted - the indignity! :-p). I imagine that one day that feeling will be like a warm and comfortable blanket that will cover me, for now, it is something that doesn't quite fit, and still pulls and tugs and I bemoan the fact that it looked better on the rack...but one day, with his help I imagine it will be as much a part of me as my love for him.
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This was a beautiful post about the "bottom". Thank you for sharing it (could have done without the medical picture of the inside of a glute muscle though lol)
ReplyDeleteHe's a guy, Christina, lol, you know he had to do soemthing that made your nose crinkle, lol.
DeleteBeautiful post from both of you. Like others have said I always love coming here.
ReplyDeleteThank you so very much, Zoe. We're glad that you enjoy it here and find something worthy in our mutterings :)
DeleteSuch a beautiful and insightful post. Being naked, or presenting myself was always an issue for me but the loving appreciation Rick shows for my body, the loving pats, words, caresses etc have made me more comfortable with it over time. I agree too - humbling, not humiliating.
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Roz
Thanks very much, Roz. I find much insight on your blog as well, and much inspiration for my own submission. Those are the things, that make me believe, those are the things that even now in just thinking of them bring a rush of tears - the gentleness of his hands, the caresses, the connection - electric through his finger tips, his lips, his hands, and the look on his face that says I am something to be prized. This was foreign to me and it takes my breath way every single time.
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