Generally in my post I try to address both people in a DD/TTWD relationship, but I've done some thinking about things and well... not this time. I think I would like to address the ladies out there in blog land. So ladies if you will take a moment to stop and listen I think we can all (guys reading along anyway included!) come to a better place.
If you tell him what you need, you are communicating. and remember back to the last post, when you do not you are not communicating clearly. When you try to push him in the direction of satisfying your needs with non-verbal communication which may accelerate into poor behavior i e, topping from the bottom.