Fun and Laughter

                                                     

One of the subjects that I am surprised that we haven't touched on yet is a simple but beautiful part of our everyday life and we hope with a fondness that it is an integral part of yours as well.  I'm talking about having fun of course!  I have noticed that June and I seem to have more fun than some of our vanilla contemporaries and I wonder if that is a nice side effect of DD and communication or if it's just us. Either way It would be hard for me to deny the  warm, tingly feeling that I get when I hear the musical sound of her laughter.


                  


In this day and age, there are many unkind realities that I believe contribute to some of the many problems that couples face.  There's always something:  Finances, Work, School,  The Kids,  and unfortunately sometimes a combination of any of these.  June has taught me that life truly begins the moment I come through the door from work and spend those precious hours with our family.


 

Fun. Three simple letters, one huge, lifelong impact.  I used to live for my paycheck, now I live for the sound of her laughter, the boisterous rumbling of the...uh... boys?! I love being buried in an avalanche of hugs and kisses from everyone under the roof. I love family day, and the quiet romantic moments that we share while we watch our boys growing before our eyes. I love that our youngest says "You're in Public Yuck!!!" when we kiss, even if he has a wry little smile on his face when he says it.

                    


The impact of fun in our life is undeniable. Every day and in every way, fun seems to sneak in, even when we least expect it.  Even when I am stressed she is quick to come up with beautiful and outstanding ways to take my mind off of things... I mean who needs a vacation when you've got someone as beautiful and inventive as June is.

I'm sure you all remember  "The Spanking Game" well, I've got to hand it to June, the girl knows how to make  a fella smile (even when I don't want to)  In the past I've been known to be notoriously stodgy and something of a curmudgeon, but when I am around her my heart is lighter and her laughter heals the wounds of the day. And when we make love her joy an brightness fill me with a energy I have not known since the days of my youth, there is a lightness, a beauty that is hard to describe but we take a special joy in.



                                                                 


I would encourage  you to find that special level of beauty and laughter in your relationship. The years will fade and the flames of love will be nourished by the undying fuel of your laughter and companionship.

                                                  

Her POV:

Fun is undeniably a commodity in which a lot of people do not invest. We love to spend long summer afternoons filling water balloons for that 15 minute all out war on the lawn, or hose fun while watering or washing the car or the outside of the house. We can hold two screaming children at bay for ...what, Daddy, 15 minutes?

It doesn't have to involve money, just time, and love, making cookies, pizza, or seitan together. Wrestling matches on the floor, run by tickle fights (though I must tell you that Ward CHEATS! He is 6'4" and he has this massive arm span - think the little hawk in the Foghorn Leghorn cartoon that Foghorn plants his hand on Henry's head & holds him off when Henry tries to march in and fails - sigh).

Honestly I have laughed more in my time with Ward than I have in all the years of my life combined. We find joy in the smallest of things. And yes, I do look for ways to delight Ward and bring that absolutely delicious deep chuckle. And I like to be creative in finding fun ways to do things. And at the end of the day, there is nothing better than being a family pile on the sofa watching a show or movie or playing a game.

The Spanking Game

Old-Fashioned Marriage made a post about distancing and made an interesting proposition. He proposed that the wife be spanked as a consequence for the husband distancing, under the understanding that he bears the responsibility for all that goes on in the relationship (true), and since he cannot be held accountable, punishing his wife for his transgression would act to correct his behavior.

Ward and I do something kind of like that, but the thought behind it is a little different. I do not assume punishment for him. But when I sense that he is stressed, perhaps a little distant, I will bring him the hairbrush (his weapon errrrrr implement of choice), say "Go ahead, Daddy, you'll feel better", and drape my panty-covered bottom over his lap. And he always does feel better. And I feel good that I can offer that to him.

One time, on a particularly evil, not good, very bad day, (after a duty day prior to the last deployment) I wanted to pull him back to his happier self, and remind him that life was not always going to be this hard. So I thought and thought and thought, and this is what I did.

I laid a cool drink on the table where he would sit, as well as some sliced fruit and cheese and crackers. When he came in, I kissed him and slid his coat off his arms, loosened and removed his tie, sat him in his chair. After removing his boots and socks I gave him a relaxing foot massage and listened to his sighs as I explained what he saw on the table and floor.



I had laid out some pillows on the floor in front of the table. On the table were 6 bowls with slips of paper. One was labeled Action. It contained slips of paper with the words, lick, suck, spank, etc.Another labeled Substance with words like honey, chocolate, whipped cream, etc. Another was labeled body part. Another labeled Implement, which needs no explanation, lol. One was labeled position. And the last labeled Duration. 



 
Also on the table were 2 trays:

The game went: you chose a slip from the action bowl. If you received an impact word, you chose additional slips from the implement, position and duration bowls. If you chose a lick/suck/kiss word, you chose a slip from the substance, body part and duration bowls. Obviously, if it was an impact word, my bottom was the bottom being impacted regardless of who drew the slip, lol. And if you chose a 'mouth' word or massage/caress word you performed the action on the other partner.

Needless to say, by the time we were done playing,  communication was flowing easily, there was no distancing and no holding back, and I had one very deliriously relaxed, totally de-stressed Daddy....and we put the dinner on 'warm'.


HIS POV:  June knows my heart so well.  She takes such expert care of me that it makes me want to compose poetry to her name and glory.  As the head of our home I have to recognize that I need to be accountable to our standard and being a stressed out mess does not help.  We are  very blessed to count ourselves good communicators and I am very very fortunate to have her as my lady. This game was a blast and it's a wonderful way to pass a fall day, even when everything is going great!