Authority is another of those concepts that make a lot of people bristle. This is another one of those words that people misconstrue, I think. When you say you are in a Dominant/submissive relationship they seem to assume that you are in a relationship with a domineering person, a micro-manager, someone who is small and petty and controlling. A good Dominant is in control of himself before he ever assumes a leadership role. Just because someone has authority does not mean they are authoritarian.
Ward is my authority. He is not my authority because he dictated it. He is my authority because I give him my submission. I give him authority over me. I accept his authority in our relationship. I respect his authority.
Authority is more than being loud, or commanding. Authority is the tool that we use to provide direction, balance, support and structure. I try to be the man that June deserves and I value her input so very much, she has given me the honor of being the leader in our relationship and that is a privilege that I try very hard to be worthy of. Knowing that June has my back at all times and is comfortable with my leadership and decision making skills is an amazing blessing that allows me to function and perform at my best and it also keeps our relationship on track and where we need to be. At the root of it all is a love vibrant and living and a true desire to lead from the front and be the Gentleman that she can look to and be proud of!