Saturday, May 5, 2012

Examining Submission Journaling Exercise - Day 18

Very often the stereotype of submission is that the submissive person loses the ability to have an opinion. While that clearly isn’t true except in the absolute rarest of occasions, how does communication factor into your submission and how do you communicate your desires and needs?

Communication is the foundation - at the very heart of TTWD. How can you lead me if you do not know my thoughts, feelings, fears, desires and needs? How can I follow if I do not understand your vision for our relationship?

Daddy makes decisions that will forward our growth as a couple, not solely because they further only his agenda - he has no agenda. He can't do that if he does not know how I feel. Shortly before he deployed we had a conversation about an impending issue.I felt strongly about it. But I just told Daddy what I would like. It came up again later. He asked me what I felt. I said I had already given him my opinion, and I was afraid that if I kept bringing it up it would be like I was trying to manipulate him with my anxiety. He assured me that no, it was not, especially because I was so concerned about not doing it. And that yes, he knew what I thought, but he wanted to understand how I felt so that he could make the best decision.

Funnily enough, my opinion is more valued in this relationship than at any time in my life. My thoughts and feelings are taken into consideration, and how things will affect me is carefully considered. There are no decisions made that benefit solely one partner. Every decision is carefully considered to bring the maximum growth and deepening to our bond.


  1. Hi June. I'm glad to have found thanks for leaving me a comment. I'll come back and read some more when I have a bit of time.

  2. Thanks very kindly, Susie. I've been following you for a little while. I've enjoyed your blog and especially the exquisite - Building a Home ( which I have listed on our "Favorite posts from other blogs" page :)


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