Monday, June 11, 2012

The story of how we met

Conina asked how Ward and I met. And I have given dribs and drabs of the story, but not the whole story. So, here we go, and I guess I should start with how I got to there.

First of all, as I said in a previous, yes, folks, I am a spanko. And yes, you can be a spanko in a DD relationship. I have been intrigued with spanking since I was five. I think because there never was, there was no consistency, no discipline, no one or nothing dependable. It was all dependent on the womb donors moods. and  there were no spankings, there were closed fisted beatings, being kicked, driven into corners.

I have always deferred in each of my three previous relationships. My partners had no idea what to do with that. They were more domineering than dominant, though at that point I had no idea I was looking for a dominant. After my ex left I decided that I would try and find someone who would be interested in a spanking kind of relationship, someone who would provide structure and someone who would lead. I have no idea at the time of DD, and no idea where to look.

I did searches of spanking dating sites and started to learn the language, then started looking at DD dating sites, and found mostly meat markets. "Oh hi, I'll be through your town next week, wanna get get together and I'll spank you?" Ummmm, no thanks. Even worse, "I'll spank you if you spank me." Ummmmm, double no thanks - I'm the spankee, not the spanker, thanks very much. And let's not even talk about collarme, which a friend referred me to.

  

One of the jobs I freelance we evaluate websites. And I tripped across Fetlife. Well it was interesting, so I bookmarked it and came back to look at it. I liked what I saw. Not a meat market, but a place that seemed to have friendlier kind of people, and ways to learn about a variety of subjects. Well I decided after reading that - hey - I was a submissive. I read and researched from a variety of places. Yup-yup - that's me. I met and played with a couple of sadists. Scratched the itch to a certain extent, but I wanted more, needed more. I craved not just sensation play, but discipline and control as well, not just in play, but in my life.



I am the kind of person, who if I get good service, I call the store and tell the manager. Or stop on the way out and tell a manager that a particular employee gave exceptional service. Or call the restaurant we got take out from to tell them the food was awesome. I do it because everyone complains and not many people express gratitude. It is taken for granted.

So here I am on FetLife. One of my friends liked a writing. So I went to read it. It was Ward's Healthy Pain. It was beautiful. This man understood how I felt, that was amazing. It was more spiritual for him than the other dominants I had encountered. So I wrote to him to tell him that I liked it and it affected me. I expected nothing, and thought he had a girl, because of the poem. So the conversation went like this:

June:   
Your writings are quite exquisite and speak with incredible maturity. Your girl is very lucky.
Respectfully, June

Ward:   
Smiles,
Thank you for reading! Writing is a very fundamental part of my life, I think it hones my intellect and centers me in the midst of my stressful life. One day I hope to find someone worthy to share the kind of life depicted with...until then I keep writing!
Thanks Again!
June:    
I know what you mean. In another life, when I didn't have 2 kids and 3 jobs, I used to write as well. One of mine echoes your sentiment about the need to write. (I shared the poem w/him)

Ward:  
Thank you so much for sharing, I found this quite vibrant, I very much felt it! It was an honor chatting with you.

June:    
Thank you very much. It was an honor chatting with you as well :)

Ward:    
May I have the honor of calling you friend?

June:    
Yes, you may, that would be quite lovely. Thank you :)
He was quite different from anyone I had ever known. He possessed all the qualities I sought. But I thought there was no way that this beautiful person could love perfectly imperfect just me. But love me he did. 
From that first exchange, we were in contact every day. When he was deployed shortly after that I continued to email him, knowing he was gone, because I wanted him to know that someone was thinking about him while he was gone. The night he came back, he called. 



I found that he called to me profoundly. I have never responded to another person as I respond to him. Yielding to him is easy, and gives me immense pleasure. For his part he says that he has never met someone as submissive as I am. It's a lovely symbiosis. It has been completely natural, completely easy, completely organic. Everyone who knows us, even the ones that don't know we are a DD couple, remark that we are completely made for each other, and how we shine. Our friends who have known us from before we were Ward and June say they have never seen us as happy as we are together.
So that's the story of how we came together.



19 comments:

  1. It really does sound like you were meant for each other, built to be together. Thank you for sharing your story June!

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    1. Thanks, Susie :) It most definitely feels that way. People say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and it most definitely does in our case. My hunger fro him only increases, and my love grows deeper.

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  2. An amazing story! God knew you were meant to be together, I think:).

    Love,
    Kitty

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    1. Thanks, Kitty :) Me too, I think. I believe that we chart the course of our lives. But I do believe that somethings are our destiny. Every choice we makes changes the course of our lives, and if we make the right choices it lines us up with the pieces that were destined to be ours. If we make the wrong choices, we can miss that which should have place in our lives, and if we are very lucky, all the pieces fall into place, and the good things that were destined to be ours come into our path. I have been very lucky that my choices have brought me to the place that I found Ward. He is most definitely my destiny, m'anumchara.

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  3. Thank you so for sharing this lovely story!

    Your response to Kitty, there, is... exactly how I feel about life.

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    1. You're most welcome, Conina. I'm very happy to share it. And I'm glad I'm not alone! Some think it is a peculiar view, but to me it fits :)

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  4. This is a nice story. It's nice that you met out of a mutual respect for Ward's talents. He is a very talented writer. I always hate when people ask how I met Adam. We met in AOL messenger because he was trying to contact a girl with a similar screen name and got me by typo. Not a wonderful beginning but a great result.

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    1. Changing The Rules, thanks :) If I hadn't been the kind of person who expressed gratitude we'd never have met. If he chose not to share his writing, we'd never have met. Happy accident - destiny and the choices that bring us there. I think your story is quite wonderful - destiny has funny ways of putting itself in our paths. You could have chosen not to answer, because you didn't know him. He could have decided to disconnect because you weren't his intended destination. Many things in life are serendipitous. We just have to embrace them when they happen!

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  5. I, too, enjoyed reading your story June. Regards,

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  6. Oh, I am glad I could read this - and the picture about being a superhero - yourman - was fantastic.

    Thanks for sharing and to Conina for asking.

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    1. You're most welcome. Glad you got here, lol (kicks playlist). I think perhaps the next post may be how Ward got to be Daddy.

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    2. That is a good idea. There has been some chat about that recently. :)

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    3. Yeah, I'm behind on my reading. Sometimes life just overwhelms. I was trying to catch up tonight, put a fair dent in it, and say a word here & there about 'Daddy'.

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  7. Thanks for sharing the story of how you met. It's a wonderful story. You were obviously meant for each other.

    FD

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    1. Thanks very kindly. It makes me immensely pleased when someones says that we're meant for each other. Because I surely feel it!

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  8. Aww, Juniebug, it was just written in the stars. :)

    Meant to be a happy little accident. Thanks for sharing this witg us. :)

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    1. It was, wasn't it? I was totally charmed by his courtliness :)

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