The story of how we met

Conina asked how Ward and I met. And I have given dribs and drabs of the story, but not the whole story. So, here we go, and I guess I should start with how I got to there.

First of all, as I said in a previous, yes, folks, I am a spanko. And yes, you can be a spanko in a DD relationship. I have been intrigued with spanking since I was five. I think because there never was, there was no consistency, no discipline, no one or nothing dependable. It was all dependent on the womb donors moods. and  there were no spankings, there were closed fisted beatings, being kicked, driven into corners.

I have always deferred in each of my three previous relationships. My partners had no idea what to do with that. They were more domineering than dominant, though at that point I had no idea I was looking for a dominant. After my ex left I decided that I would try and find someone who would be interested in a spanking kind of relationship, someone who would provide structure and someone who would lead. I have no idea at the time of DD, and no idea where to look.

I did searches of spanking dating sites and started to learn the language, then started looking at DD dating sites, and found mostly meat markets. "Oh hi, I'll be through your town next week, wanna get get together and I'll spank you?" Ummmm, no thanks. Even worse, "I'll spank you if you spank me." Ummmmm, double no thanks - I'm the spankee, not the spanker, thanks very much. And let's not even talk about collarme, which a friend referred me to.

  

One of the jobs I freelance we evaluate websites. And I tripped across Fetlife. Well it was interesting, so I bookmarked it and came back to look at it. I liked what I saw. Not a meat market, but a place that seemed to have friendlier kind of people, and ways to learn about a variety of subjects. Well I decided after reading that - hey - I was a submissive. I read and researched from a variety of places. Yup-yup - that's me. I met and played with a couple of sadists. Scratched the itch to a certain extent, but I wanted more, needed more. I craved not just sensation play, but discipline and control as well, not just in play, but in my life.



I am the kind of person, who if I get good service, I call the store and tell the manager. Or stop on the way out and tell a manager that a particular employee gave exceptional service. Or call the restaurant we got take out from to tell them the food was awesome. I do it because everyone complains and not many people express gratitude. It is taken for granted.

So here I am on FetLife. One of my friends liked a writing. So I went to read it. It was Ward's Healthy Pain. It was beautiful. This man understood how I felt, that was amazing. It was more spiritual for him than the other dominants I had encountered. So I wrote to him to tell him that I liked it and it affected me. I expected nothing, and thought he had a girl, because of the poem. So the conversation went like this:

June:   
Your writings are quite exquisite and speak with incredible maturity. Your girl is very lucky.
Respectfully, June

Ward:   
Smiles,

Thank you for reading! Writing is a very fundamental part of my life, I think it hones my intellect and centers me in the midst of my stressful life. One day I hope to find someone worthy to share the kind of life depicted with...until then I keep writing!

Thanks Again!

June:    
I know what you mean. In another life, when I didn't have 2 kids and 3 jobs, I used to write as well. One of mine echoes your sentiment about the need to write. (I shared the poem w/him)

Ward:  
Thank you so much for sharing, I found this quite vibrant, I very much felt it! It was an honor chatting with you.

June:    
Thank you very much. It was an honor chatting with you as well :)

Ward:    
May I have the honor of calling you friend?

June:    
Yes, you may, that would be quite lovely. Thank you :)

He was quite different from anyone I had ever known. He possessed all the qualities I sought. But I thought there was no way that this beautiful person could love perfectly imperfect just me. But love me he did. 

From that first exchange, we were in contact every day. When he was deployed shortly after that I continued to email him, knowing he was gone, because I wanted him to know that someone was thinking about him while he was gone. The night he came back, he called. 

I found that he called to me profoundly. I have never responded to another person as I respond to him. Yielding to him is easy, and gives me immense pleasure. For his part he says that he has never met someone as submissive as I am. It's a lovely symbiosis. It has been completely natural, completely easy, completely organic. Everyone who knows us, even the ones that don't know we are a DD couple, remark that we are completely made for each other, and how we shine. Our friends who have known us from before we were Ward and June say they have never seen us as happy as we are together.

So that's the story of how we came together.