Wednesday, March 27, 2013

The Gift of Time



                                                     


 There are 24 hours in a day. Just 24, no more, no less. Often it feels like there isn't enough of it to go around.  But, I would ask, Is there any gift more precious? The gift of one's time, passion, and energy are among the most precious gifts that we can give.  I think that's one of the things missing from many "modern" couples.  Sure we all have work to consider and then there is our own individual interest and stress to relieve. But there is one thing that I try to remain vigilant about.... that's love.  It's pretty easy to say that one loves another, but then again it's quite another thing to show it. Do I still go out with the guys after work and catch part of the game and take in a brew? Sure, but I also realize the value in giving people rain-checks and giving my family the time and attention that they require to grow.


                                                   















 It can be pretty easy to fall into a rut at times, or dare I say it... take each other for granted, but giving each other the time and attention that couples need.  Sometimes our domestic responsibilities and our schedules get hectic. Having two active school age children is a challenge at the best of times, but when you account for winter weather, the morning pokieness of our oldest, work, vehicles, people being under the weather, breakfast, lunch, bills, work  hmmm I'm sure I left some things out, but it's easy to see how even the most dedicated and vigilant could be overwhelmed and out of sorts at the end of a long, busy day.

                                                 
   
Sometimes the only real solution is to make time. No, I'm not a wizard and I realize that not everything is as simple as all that, but sometimes making the time to do even something just small can have HUMONGOUS benefits.  That's where it falls on us guys.  As an HoH I feel that it is my duty to assess the situation in the home, monitor stress and fatigue levels and when necessary to make time for my children or my woman when it is clear that they  need me to do so. My suggestions?  Kick her out of the kitchen and finish dinner, Take the kids out for a while so she can have a few hours to herself. Take the laundry basket from her and tell her to put her feet up and relax. 
                                                                                         

Sometimes making time means saying no to friends, canceling plans and knowing that sometimes  the best thing to do is to do nothing... No, no, I'm not sure you understand, nothing.  Sometimes nothing is disastrous, sometimes a weekend  of relaxation, and snuggling on the couch can be more productive than traveling too and from, running around like chickens without heads, and generally adding stress to the two days of the week where stress just don't have  a place.


                                                                    


Sadly, I can't just add 5 more hours or tack on two more days to the week, but what I can do is be attentive to my lady and her needs, spend time with my children and use what time we do have to bolster and nourish our ever-tightening bonds and feed the spirits and minds of the ones I hold dear.  I would encourage you all to find a way, or make a way to give each other and your families the attention that they require, need, deserve, and thrive from.  Who knows what you will discover?  Who knows what priceless moments are just waiting to be had?   Let each discovery you make bolster your efforts to be the best you can for each other.... Time's a wastin'




                                                               


Her POV: 

 There IS no greater gift we can give to each other. We all understand that principle with regard to our children. Better to give them your time, to show them they are worthy and valuable, than to buy all the latest gadgets. Why then would we give less to our families and to our partners? As our time nourishes our children, increases intimacy, increases trust and communication, so it does when we devote time to each other and to our relationships. When we give the gift of time, we also give the gift of understanding, we give refreshment to the soul, we relieve and wash away stress and strip away the world and all the things that do not belong and give shelter, safe harbor to our loved ones and let them be their best and most authentic selves.

17 comments:

  1. Even with using ttwd as a tool time is something that always seems to get away from us. Daddy has been very good at reeling one in when she overextends herself. It took sometime getting used to it but the end result of more time together sure is nice.

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    1. It's funny, I recognize the things we need to be successful in our particular kinds of relationships. But they are tools that every single relationship needs - whether they are vanilla, or anywhere on the spectrum of D/s relationships. Just seems like us 'deviant' folks get it better, lol.

      (((hugs)))

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  2. Oh I so whole-heartedly agree. The best gift of all.

    Thanks for a thoughtful and timely post!

    Hugs,
    Fiona

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    1. Hope you and your Sir enjoy some wonderful extra time over the holiday, fiona :)

      (((hugs)))

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  3. Something to remember if ever i have a full time live-in partner :)

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    1. It's a very good thing to remember, Fondles. That and making the most of the time that you do have :)


      (((hugs)))

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  4. Thank you for another thoughtful post. Time is the most precious gift we can give our loved ones, but it's so easy to let life get in the way at times. We try hard to make sure we do take time out for each other and to connect.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Thanks Roz :) Daddy will often say, "What do you want for (fill in the occassion)?" And my answer is always - "Just you, Daddy". What more could I want?

      (((hugs)))

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  5. Four day weekend this week. Everyone will be home yea. A surprise from our 20 year old son no she's not pregnant thank God. My son and his girlfriend have asked us all to go to church with them on Sunday. This the boy that has refused to go to church since he was fourteen. I like this girl already. I am in awe of him. He put his feelings aside about church for the girl he loves. Yes I think I did something right. Sorry Im rambling. I just love when there is time to play with my husband and kids, the week is just so crazy, we dont get in the house all together till seven at night, so weekends are such a blessing. Hugs to you all have a great holiday weekend.

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    1. Oh, lovely, a four day weekend! I hope you all enjoy it, Annie! I'd say you have definitely done more than a few things right, Annie :) The closeness of your family, and the way you all pulled together for your son - lots of families can't get through trials like that. You should be proud of all of you!

      (((hugs))) and Happy Easter!

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  6. LOved this post. It really is the greatest gift. Quality time, and all that implies - undivided attention, attentiveness, being in the moment together.

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    1. That's a great point, Tess, togetherness without attentiveness is pretty well a wash.

      (((hugs)))

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  7. Speaking of time...Michael has a 3 day weekend this weekend. I'm so excited! :) Great post!

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    1. Enjoy it, Grace! The gift of time is extraordinary! Happy Easter!

      (((hugs)))

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  8. Another great post and so very true...time is a gift we can give to family and friends...near and far! Thank you both for the gift of time your give all of us through your posts and responses to our comments.

    Wishing you and your family a lovely holiday weekend.

    Hugs and Blessings,
    Cat

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    1. Aww, thanks, Cat. Time doesn't cost a thing, and has the absolute highest value that we could imagine.

      (((hugs))) and Happy Holidays!

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  9. @dancingbarez - Thanks for stopping by! Ensuring that we both get what we need is a labor of love! I love taking care of my June!
    @SirQsmlb - Thanks! we where thinking that it was a good time to put this post up!
    @Fondles - Indeed we would say it would be a vital thing to remember.
    @Roz - We have definatly discovered that it more than pays to be mindful of each others needs.
    @Annie - Thank you Annie! We are definatly blessed in our weekends too! We hope that you and yours have a blessed weekend!
    @Tess - Those moments of total connection are a treasure and we love them so! Thanks for reading!
    @Grace - Awesome for you and Michael! Hope you guys enjoy the time you get to share with each other! There is no greater gift!
    @Cat - Thank you Cat, we are proud to be able to post here and have you share wishing you a very lovely holiday weekend too!

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