Saturday, November 17, 2012
Correction and Emotion
Being the HoH is a job that I've found to be always rewarding and sometimes challenging. In addition to being observant, kind, gracious, loving, generous and affectionate, a good man must also be intuitive, resolute, dominant, slow to anger, quick to forgive and prepared to sacrifice in order to build a strong, healthy relationship that elevates both a man and his lady to their healthiest places.
I can honestly count on one hand the number of times that it was necessary to give her correction.
Correction is something that I think a lot of people don't like to talk about or always see in a negative light, but sometimes I think if we look closely we can learn a number of things that can prove useful in the future.
I think I can easily say that spanking in the corrective sense of the word is one of my least favorite jobs as the HoH. It isn't fun and it is an emotional trigger for both of us. I love her too much to fail her or let something small fester and turn into something big. I'm sure June would tell you that sometimes I can be a pain when I know something is on her mind, but as it is I think she knows just as I do, that when the air needs to be cleared, it becomes a priority. I'm not sure how other people do things, but we believe in a saying that may sound a bit cliche but it's true, "Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry."
It can be simpler said and done and even when the head is cool, the heart burns hot and the truth of emotion is and can often be brought to the surface during a thorough spanking. Distance, passive-aggression, stubbornness, may all be seen during the emotive stages of correction, being that none of those things can be allowed to flourish, they are soon replaced by contrition, a will to change and the release of guilt, anger, hurt and negativity.