Friday, January 18, 2013

Hungry for Each Other

                                                                

                                           
                                      

I've said it before and I'll say it again... One of the most important things a couple can do is make time for each other.  Life is busy and difficult enough as it is, but once we step past the threshold of our homes, life doesn't stop.  I'm tired often, sometimes very tired, but I know that I still have expectations to meet as the HoH of this family.  I make an effort to meet the challenges and needs of my family.  The boys have homework that needs to be done,  and as much as I love the boys, I'm going to be very honest... they are a load, June needs some time for herself.. As much as I'd love to go grab a beer and sit down to Sports Center, I know that it benefits our relationship when I ensure that she gets some time to reset, relax and do some things she wants to do, but it's more than that too.  Meeting the challenges of a TTWD/DD relationship has many benefits and when we meet these challenges it keeps us hungry for each other. 


To me, being hungry means craving her in all ways.  I crave the sharpness of her mind (June is a smart cookie). She'll say she is just herself but she is much more creative and intelligent than she gives herself credit for. Her intelligence and her opinions often mirror my own and  I find the sharpness of her mind alluring. I crave her body,  She brings me much comfort and delight at the end of long days. Her warm, waiting embrace and pleasurable form bring me much pleasure and delight. I crave her spirit. Her warmth and her kindness inspire me often... I know I may be biased folks, but in truth June is the finest woman that I have ever had the privilege of knowing. Her dedication and vigilance to what we have and how we can learn from our mistakes and the wisdom of folks here touches me and make me want her close to me.


                                                                                                  
                                                       



 I'm pretty sure that not many of you would be surprised if I told you that I am a bit of a romantic. I think it's important to be available to one's partner mentally and physically.  Sometimes it's as simple as her saying "Honey I've had a hard day and I need to relieve some stress" or sometimes it's the fact that she knows me well enough to see what I need... Sometimes she crawls over my knee, sometimes she knows that what I need is much simpler, she knows her man's desire and just how to best satisfy it.


                                                          

 Staying hungry for each other is important part of  TTWD/DD or really any relationship.  The effort and time that both partners put into truly giving each other their best, becomes a vital skill that pays dividends in both the long and short term. 

-  A deeper attentiveness
-  A deeper appreciation for the things we do for each other
-  An insanely high libido increase
-  A warmth that  spreads throughout our home
-  A understanding of each other that is deeper for each other
-  A deep desire to only improve, even through setbacks or disagreements, a true hunger for each other.


                                                  



Finding time or making time for each other remains a priority, even with the kids, school, work and making ends meet, we continue to find ways to show each other how important we are.  We highly recommend exploring your options and finding ways to show each other how you feel and what emotions and passion that you evoke in each other.  Send the kids to grandma's, Check out that Bed and Breakfast, plan a romantic weekend away. The time we give our partners is precious. Give each other your best!




                                                      



Her POV:

Ward is a very effective leader, both in his work life and his home life. He is caring, compassionate, intuitive, firm and consistent. When he shares the things he does, it is not someone just hypothesizing, he shares what works for us because he walks his talk. This is a most amazing thing for me... I've never had anyone who did that before.This is intimacy...intimacy is not a quick tumble in the blankets, intimacy begins in the mind and in the heart.

Which brings to mind another thought...and old thought....one of June's favorite thoughts....redundant much?  Reciprocity! (Oh, stop that groaning!) I have said over the last few posts, that I enjoy serving Ward, and I enjoy doing things for him with a full, loving and submissive heart. It can make the simplest of acts an act of love and submission.It can make the larger acts of submission a prayer.

Where is the reciprocity? He serves me as well. When he sees me take a deep breath and close my eyes because I have listened to my 7,463rd whine of the day, and he steps in and handles it, or takes the task from my hand and tells me to go take a break, or he tells me to sit so he can do the dishes, or pulls the laundry basket between us and starts folding, or senses my sense of agitation and takes my hand and leads me to our room and closes the door and pulls me across his lap....when he texts me an instruction because he knows I revel in his Dominance, he is taking the time to show that he knows- feels- sees- acknowledges and cares about all the things that affect me. He is quick to kiss a - but you had a hard day, too - protest straight off my lips (YUMMY), pat me on the butt and send me off so that I can be my best for him and for us. 

Am I hungry for him? All the bloody time. I long for the curve of his jaw, his stubble, his scent, his touch, his laugh, his voice, his humor, his patience in the hours he is absent. I crave it. My heart squeezes when he sighs and rolls out of the bed for work, and it never really stops till he walks back in the door. He is my first thought in the morning, my last thought at night, he fills my dreams, he fills my heart. And what we create...it feeds him, it feeds me, it feeds our children and shows them that life can be extraordinary.

32 comments:

  1. What a beautiful love you share! It's inspiring!
    Bea

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    1. Thanks very much, Bea. He certainly inspires me...he'smy hero :)

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  2. Love the new look. You guys are like the poster children for dd.

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    1. Glad you like it sunnygirl...it took forever to figure out how to do it. I tried a while back & ruched up the blog terribly, so badly that I'm still finding stuff that needs fixed, lol. This was relatively painless, once I figured out the right way.

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  3. This is something that we are really trying to focus on this year. It is really refreshing to see this perspective from a man's point of view. Thanks for sharing, both of you.

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    1. It really works, Dana, sometimes the hunger is so great it could consume me. That's a good thing :) Thanks so much!

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  4. So so beautiful. A true real life honest to goodness love story. I love that I can bear witness to it via your blog. So very awesome. <3 I've said it before, but I always leave here feeling softer, and gentled. xo

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    1. A humble thank you, HisLilAngel, for such a lovely compliment. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me personally. (Our children are an awesome gift, but they are God's gift of potential to the world, and only ours to share for a while).

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  5. It is so nice to see two people so much in love and in tune with each other.

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    1. Thank you, Mrs. D. I have never known this depth of love, emotion and connection before.

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  6. I love the new look and this was a great post too! :) Now if only it hadn't left me feeling hungry for my own husband who won't be home until tomorrow night. *sigh* I hope you both have a wonderful weekend! :)

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    1. Glad you like it, Grace! Thanks and I'm so sorry! I know the hunger when they are gone. Just a few more hours, and think how sweet it will be!

      (((hugs)))

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  7. Awe! I just love the relatuonship you two have. It inspires me to do better.

    Hugs

    P

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    1. Thanks, P :) We try, it gets better every day!

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  8. Ward? A bit of a romantic? Well color me shocked...not! LOL

    Ward every word you write on this page shows you love and devotion for June. Your love and devotion for Ward shines through also June. Together, you are such an inspiration and a wonderful, shining example for your boys.

    BTW...love your new look!

    Hugs and Blessings,
    Cat

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    1. Lol, he is and I love it :D It is a distinct pleasure that thrills me every single time....butterflies - sigh -

      Thanks, it took me forever to figure it out, Cat, but I'm pleases with how it came out :)

      (((hugs)

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  9. So true what you say. I love how you live what you say.

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    1. He is the most honorable man I have ever had the privilege of knowing, Minelle. Being loved by him...well that's my miracle.

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  10. Another great post. You guys always give me food for thought and inspire me in my efforts. This is something we endeavour to do, but there's no such thing as giving too much time to your loved one.

    Hugs
    Roz

    PS I love the new look!

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    1. Thanks, Roz :) I love that we all learn from each other in this community, there is never a day that I do not come away some how inspired or touched or challenged.

      Thanks! I'm chuffed to have finally figured it out :-P

      (((hugs)))

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  11. This is so true, sometimes its very difficult to find time but it should be made, we make a point of once a week, having a set 'talk' time it has to be something very important for it to be missed, it just gives us that opportunity to 'catch-up' when times are hectic.

    With both of us working, 2 school age children it sometimes feels like we are ships that pass in the night so its vital to make time to connect.

    x

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    1. I know, tori. Sometimes I get so very frustrated. Ward is excellent at sending the boys to bed, just shutting everything down and making sure we have that time to reconnect and feel each other, and go to bed stress free.

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  12. Im so happy for both of you. True Love and devotion is amazing and I wish so many more in the world would have this gift in there lives. All our friends are divorced at least once, my best friend 3 times. I think I should send her to your blog to read how happy people can be. June I know that feeling when he leaves at 4 am and doesnt come back till 6 pm. When he walks back in that door its like it was 25 years ago he still catches my breath and makes my heart melt. Hugs

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    1. Oh, Annie, I know what you mean. I haven't lost my butterflies, they have multiplied, and they kick up as soon as I hear his tires on the drive. When his key turns in the lock, I'm almost a projectile, lol. He gives me the gift of depth and vibrancy. He is most amazing :) I'm glad your butterflies are thriving, too!

      (((hugs)))

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  13. Another awesome post :) I love it :)

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  14. Yes, Ward - I think I could say that you are a very romantic gentleman and your lovely June is putty in your hands. You are a very inspirational couple, and you are generous in sharing what you know and learn with all of us.
    Thanks for letting us press our ear to the door and peep through the keyhole, it delights us to see a couple living this lifestyle and so much in love.
    hugs
    lillie

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  15. 1. @New Bea - Thank you so much, our love is vibrant and strong!
    @sunnygirl - Thanks so much for reading, we love seeing you here and we try to be a good example!
    @Dana - Thank you! We wish you the best in the year to come, it's worth the effort!
    @HisLilAngel - We have the unique blessing to live out a timeless love story every single day, we are indeed blessed and indeed richer for being able to share it with you all here!
    @Mrs. D - Thank you! It is wonderful to see you here!
    @Grace - Thanks! We are enjoying the new look as well! Hope you get to enjoy some quality time with your fella soon!
    @Pocahontas - We are glad you are inspired!
    @Elisa Will - Thanks for stopping by Elisa, we are always glad to post!
    @Cat - I'm actually a huge romantic blush* June just brings it out in me, she's the finest lady I know, and we both definatly try to be good examples for the boys! Thanks for wonderful input as always! We love you!
    @Minelle Labraun - We definitely both try to walk the walk!
    @Roz - We make time or find time for each other! We are priorities for each other!
    @tori - That special connective time we set aside for each other is a Godsend for sure.
    @Annie - That love that takes your breath away is timeless we love that you have it for your lucky gentleman.
    @elle - We thank it is awesome that you take the time to check our posts out! Thanks for stopping by!
    @ians mrs - We are glad that we can inspire and share information that may just help others out in their journey. Thanks for coming by lillie!

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  16. Sometimes with busy schedules we wait almost too long to give this to each other. Thanks for this post. I'll try to do well this week.

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    1. It is easy to keep procrastinating on making time for each other..that's how it always went before Ward. With Ward, it is an imperative, if we don't get that time, I get ... out of sorts. It makes such a difference in our ability to deal with daily stresses when we do this. I wish you a crazy happy and connected week, Susie :)

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