Okay, you asked about implements that we use for discipline and correction. This post is titled part one, because other implements could well enter this...errrrr...arsenal. Some are bought meant to be toys, but on use it becomes quite clear that they are not as enjoyable as was thought when looking at the pretty pictures, lol. So, with that in mind.....
Meet Mr. Studly (YIKES!). Before Daddy's last deployment we talked about getting more leather, most of what we had was wood (Daddy's a wood man). We had some delrin, and lexan , but no real leather toys. I perused Cane-iac, because as GORGEOUS as the things at London Tanners are, they are at this stage, a major investment for us. Mr. Studly, as his name indicates is a stud weighted strap. He is gorgeous, and very well made, rounded corners, no sharp edges, nicely weighted in Daddy's hand (the phone is there strictly for scale)....and by golly Ned - he HURTS! He was intended as a play toy, but Daddy said my reaction to him was less than favorable, so he is now a correction/discipline only implement....GULP!
The Lexan paddle makes me twitchy just seeing it. Thin, flexible...owie! It has a large surface area, and the composition of the acrylic gives it.....quite an impact. I suppose you could use this for fun, but it takes a metered hand, and for us it's one of those things used to make a definitive statement.
This is a fairly thick silicone loop called The Howler. Holy crow that's aptly named. This is one of those implements for those of you who ask about quiet implements. The implement is quiet...you may not be.
This one doesn't have a name, and Daddy would have to tell you where it came from. It is my "sad Panda" implement because when it comes out there is no question that I have disappointed Daddy...not something I ever want to do.
This is a padauk Naughty Stick (we have a purple heart as well). This again was a toy brought for fun, but after trying it out, Daddy said that it would be correction and discipline only, it makes me winge:"> This is especially useful (so Daddy says) for paying special attention to a naughty girl's sit spots... he has been known to use a wooden ruler and wooden spoon - quite vigorously - for that task - sigh....
This is a delrin loop. This is another super OWWWWW! And another very quiet implement....except for perhaps the recipient
When we discover other toys that fall into this category, we'll add an update :) But they'll never be used *shakes head vigorously* nope, nope...cause I'm just a lil
HIS POV:
Sometimes a good hard discipline session or a bun toasting corrective spanking is necessary. These implements are tools to be used in the pursuit of a happy, healthy relationship. I don't enjoy giving June correction but she also means enough to me that I will do whatever is necessary to make sure our relationship remains on course and in harmony!
Sometimes a good hard discipline session or a bun toasting corrective spanking is necessary. These implements are tools to be used in the pursuit of a happy, healthy relationship. I don't enjoy giving June correction but she also means enough to me that I will do whatever is necessary to make sure our relationship remains on course and in harmony!
Hi June and Ward
ReplyDeleteUm....OWIE!!! I thought our implements were pretty mean, but now that I have looked at yours I have changed my mind!! I think our are now tame :)
My Hoh makes a lot of ours. As they are very hard to get in our country due to certain laws. You cannot even buy any on ebay here, unless you buy from overseas, and then I am not sure whether they would make it through customs.
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Holy crow, M3, I'd have to move! I need my owww inducers, lol. You guys are in New Zealand? Yikes, I love it there - it's gorgeous! Sad they do that :(I'd be all sad panda. I can teach you how to make a couple of things out of standard household items if you want ;-)
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Hi June,
DeleteWe used to live there, but are now in the neighbour country :)
I have thought about posting a picture of the things we have, but then it might scare some people :)! Most are home made of course...very clever man is my man :)
But any suggestions or advice on more would be appreciated...on his part..not so sure on mine though :)
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I'd love to see them, myself, M3...then again, I'm a bit of a weirdo, lol. I like to see DIY, and have been known to try and reproduce ones that make me go....ooooooooooh! I have a few DIY ones, made with coax cable, and a nice little flogger made with window spline.
DeleteDarn, cannot email you without having to set up outlook express!!! :(
Deleteemailing you - just reply :)
DeleteOUCH!!!!
ReplyDeleteLOL, you're not kidding, Blue Bird, they hurt worse when it's correction, for some reason...pesky conscience *pout*
DeleteWe have been looking for quiet implements so unfortunately we may have to try out the loopy ones. Like you said, I'm not sure I will be quiet.
ReplyDeleteI'm very stoic and quiet, Zoe, they even make me squeak! That's saying a whole lot, lol.
DeleteYikes! No wonder you are such a sweetie, June. I threw out the silicone spatula than Ian used once or twice because I thought it was beastly....a sign that I may be a crybaby (which Ian has protested all along) :D
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lillie
Ohhhh, you shoulda sent it here, lillie! I've been looking for one like that, lol. Can't find the right shape in our stores around here. MMMhmmm, Daddy knows how to keep a good girl good, lol.
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Ouch is right. The only one we've tried is the lexan and I was so stupid to buy that. Just had to see if it was everything everybody said. It was, is and then some. It has been hidden away to be forgotten and destroyed at an opportunte time. After that I listened to what others said, so no loopy here.
ReplyDeleteBut as Lillian said, no wonder you are an angel.
LOL, I don't know about angel, now...Daddy might call that an exaggeration.... I surely do try.... so thanks :D Yeah, I think I had the same thoughts about the lexan - along the lines of 'how bad can it be?' Well holy crow, enough to make you bolt clear through the ceiling! We really should listen to our sensible voice. And ummmmmmm, lexan is like indestructible, isn't it?
DeleteThis reminds me we still need to get new implements... But I don't want any of these, lol! :)
ReplyDeleteMMMM, go check out the angel maker on the gg post, elle. I'd buy that thing again 100 times over...YUMMO!!! That other little strap is not slouch in the yummy department, either.
DeleteWe have one of those silicone loopy things and i dont mind it, but the lexan paddle umm nope im begging and pleading if i see him go anywhere near it lol
ReplyDeleteIm liking the look of Mr Studly..i may have to go check out where you got it from right now.....
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The Howler is not bad if used very lightly, but if he swings (I am a sensory seeker, I like a lot of sensation, so he swings pretty hard after warmup) the way he swings the yummy straps, it's very, very intense edging unpleasant. The same with Mr. Studly, if Daddy is trying to make a point, Mr. Studly does that quite efficiently and in short order.
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Hello Angel Juniebug - All I can say "OUCHIE" - no thank you! Sending warm wishes that all you get are 'GG' spankings! More fun for both of you. ;)
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Lol, it's my goal, my halo is a lil tilted most days, and my wings.... maybe a tad rumpled. Oh, thanks! GGs are the bomb, I could take 10 a day, lol.
Delete(((hugs))) Glad you're back, I missed ya :)
Oh June, my tush admires yours! I don't think I could be as brave as you- 10 a day my my I hope you don't come to regret that statement one day. LOL I too enjoy some GGs but mmm I don't know about a few of them "toys" you have. Maybe I shouldn't of sent Vic to your site...
ReplyDeleteLOL, thanks, Cathie :) We tried to make it a clear distinction, and it should be noted that we play hard, it only makes sense that discipline and correction need to make a statement and would likely be what some others might consider quite vigorous. *clears throat* Ahem - that's my disclaimer for Vic, lol. Do have him visit the GG spanking page, those are the toys - YUMMY! These are implements O_o
DeleteYou have TWO evil loopy things June! Ouch, ouch, ouch.
ReplyDeleteBut hey, like you said...you are angel. :)
We have three, actually, one I made out of coax cable O_o (was I insane?). But yup, yup, thankfully Daddy reserves them for correction and I haven't ever had many of those (clasps hands and mutters a little prayer)... and Lord, do I try.
DeleteThanks for sharing. Gosh you have quite the collection, there. I giggled at the cell phone...I actually have been spanked with a cell phone before. Cael was mostly teasing, he didn't have any implements nearby and just grabbed it. I was worried it would break, but it had a case at least! That's not the norm for us, but your picture made me think of it!
ReplyDeleteI've actually been curious about a few of the implements you listed. However, I don't know that I'm in any rush to see how they feel!
That's not the half of our collection, Riley :"> We have a Rubbermaid tote about 3feet x 2 feet by 8 inches. These are just the implements that are used solely to make an impression, lol.
DeleteCurious? Which ones? ...or you don't want Cael to know :-P
Ahh wow! Our collection is quite small. The way I see it is that until what we have stops hurting, no reason to get more ;)
DeleteCael can know, although I don't think he'll see this anyway. "Mr. Studly" looks interesting, he uses a belt on me but I want a leather strop because I think it's easier to control and not accidentally miss and get my back! I'm also curious about the padauk naught stick, but that might be in part because it's such a pretty color! And then I have heard a lot about the lexan but have never tried it...I don't even think Cael knows what it is so I won't enlighten, but maybe someday I will ;)
There may be - heck I know there are (I've seen those barbed wire floggers....shudders) - people who go deeper than we do. These are just beyond the realm of the pleasurable for us.
DeleteI am a pretty hard player as far as fun spankings, Daddy jokes and says that our GGs might scare the bejesus out of some people. But Mr. Studly, used moderately when I was in that lovely floaty place, yanked me right back from the jaws of happiness and made me squirm (I am not a squirmer) and make not happy urgent noises, which is why sadly, he is relegated here....I say sadly cause, dang, he's pretty isn't he?
I'm not the biggest fan of wood, but it is also not my place to choose what is used. But Daddy said that my reaction to the naughty stick (padauk is a dense hardwood) was also less than favorable, and past the 'fun' reaction. The lexan is the only thing that has ever made me yelp and do that determined grunt. Holy crow, talk about a thousand hornet stings...yes, you heard me, not even bee stings....HORNETS! Great big honkin' angry hornets! ;-P
June and Ward,
ReplyDeleteI have a question, and if it's too personal then please forgive me!
When Will and I started out playing with spanking in the bedroom, one thing we decided was that Will himself would get swatted with each implement before I would. The thought-process here is that he cannot possibly know how an implement will truly feel on my body if he himself has no frame of reference.
After we started ttwd, the rule continued to apply. Even with a hand spanking, he has asked me to give him a few good, hard swats (of course, I'm not nearly as strong as he is) so that when he spanks me, he has an idea of the physical impact. He is very concerned with abuse, or truly hurting me to the point that it would damage my trust in him - he would never forgive himself if that were to occur. Of course, he couldn't truly experience the emotions involved on the receiving end (ha!) any more than I can experience his on the giving end of this dynamic. But the physical part of it is obviously possible for each partner.
My question is this: Ward, do you experience the impact of these implements yourself, even if it's to test it out on your own leg?
I am asking with complete respect, just curious if you feel the same way that my husband does.
Again, if this is to personal, do not in any way feel the need to post this comment!
Thank you both in advance.
Hi, Elisa. It's not too personal, sweetie, and it actually raises a good point.
DeleteYes, Ward does try everything on his own leg at an average intensity to that he would use to spank me. In that way he knows how to taper the impact when he uses it, be it for pleasure, discipline or correction (all different intensities, of course). And he does this for the same reason, I imagine Will does, to ensure my safety,and physical, mental and emotional well-being.
Ward will expand in this I'm sure, but at the present he's in the shower, lol.
Please feel free to ask anything. If you're uncomfortable doing that here, feel free to email us.
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June,
DeleteThank you so much for answering this question - it puts my mind at ease. You know that I've had some issues with the line between abuse/play/ttwd and this helps tremendously.
I have had issues in my past which involve physical abuse, so this is an odd situation I find myself in. I'm a spanko, who doesn't want to be hurt, but wants to be spanked. And taken in hand to an extent. But not if I'm emotionally devastated.
I'm a bit of an odd mix, no?
I think, based on some of your past posts, that you understand this. And that Ward does as well, on your behalf, just as Will does on mine.
So your insights truly help me, and I'm thankful!
Elisa xo
You're most welcome, sweetie. Yes, I guess there is quite a fine line. That's why it is so important to have a partner who understands you and will give you the things you need. What Ward and I do is not abuse. It is something that provides me with the things I need.
DeleteWard well understands, and yes there has been abuse in my past. This is a strange thing, and I guess what a lot of people do not understand, and I guess if they have not experienced it, perhaps they never will. Because of things in my past, I am very susceptible to emotional pain. It can be disabling. For me, spanking has always been about taking that emotional pain, transferring it to flesh, and poof...it's gone, and I have emotional peace. So, in light of that, no, darlin', not a weird mix, you just put me in good company.
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@Elisa Will - Yes I do tap my leg or the palm of my hand with any implement, particularly newer implements before I use with June. It is important to be safe and cognizant of the effect that any implement can have on not just the body but the mind as well. Safety and Love are always of the utmost importance! Thanks again for commenting!
DeleteMaster and I play hard, therefore, discipline need to be harder. The only one of those He has is the lexan....and I wish He did not. Those others look very ouchie....
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Hi abby :) Yes I need lots of sensation, we have joked that the intensity of our GG's would likely scare some people. It's not too much for me, he does not harm me, and I love it (no bruises, no marks, no blood, not that heavy :-P). So yes, correction and discipline need to be able to make a little more of an impression...notice there is no leather :( (Sad panda for no leather - sigh).
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Owie! We stick with wood paddles and one plexi glass monster. Now that Dragon has figured out that I am not as fragile as once thought, he uses them to great effect. Yikes. We had a loopy thing made out of vacuum hose. I left it at a friends house.
ReplyDeleteA vacuum hose? Hmmm, I have the one I made out of coax, that's owie, too. lol, left it at a friend's house... Dragon didn't catch on to that?
DeleteI am such a whimp! The one time hubby played with something other than his hand I was like ouch!!! I gotta admire your strong tush girl!
ReplyDeleteLOL, Minelle, buns-of-steel :-D I wish that was more in the traditional sense, lol.
DeleteWow!, *covering my backside* Ouch, ouch, ouch! You have quite a collection - two loopy thngies? No wonder you are such an angel and a sweetie June. The yummy strap's much better huh :)
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Roz
Oh golly Ned, you are not just whistling Dixie, Roz! The yummy straps are heaven - happy sigh :) These....not my favorite, but I do my best to accept with grace whatever he chooses to give.
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Omg ouch ouch lol
ReplyDeleteYou one hard lassy as we say where I come from.
We don't have so many implements. Those loopy things would scare the living daylights out of me.
What we do have for severe punishments is a very flexible fibreglass covered with " plastic " rope cane/ crop don't know how to describe it really. It's very quite and swishes when he swings it through the air. It stings like hell. He has me screaming in my pillow with the first smack. I hate it. Thank god it only comes out when I've really crossed the line.
We have other things like rulers and a very heavy duty bath brush ouch.
I don't know how you cope, I'm like a kid with punishments I whine and cry and plead, not that it gets me anywhere.
I really hope he doesn't start looking for other implements.
LOL, Mustbecrazy, so I've been told. That's not all of them...if I laid them all out y'all might run screaming for the hills. But as we go through our implement reviews, all of them will make an appearance at one time or other...just not all at once.
DeleteFor me, if I have done something that breaks our established rules and/or have disappointed him with my behavior, it's not really a matter of coping with correction, it is more that I cannot cope without. I view it as a purge of the negativity that I caused with my behavior. As I've said before (and again below) in our two years as a committed couple, I have received correction five times, one of those I asked for, and he was initially upset that I did, thinking that I was refusing his grace. He has come to realize that correction is something that I require to move past the little bumps in the road that have occurred.
Has he used all of the above in corrections? No. They were originally bought to be used for play, and my reaction to them was less than favorable. So he discontinued their use and we later discussed that they would be effective discipline and correction implements. The only ones that have actually been used in discipline and correction are the wood and Mr. Studly. The others are just there with the knowledge that they could be used if necessary, and because they were not enjoyable enough for regular use.
I'm not anti-spanking and actually enjoy being spanked erotically, but the idea of my hubby using any of these very nasty implements on me in punishment would have me out the door and away from him, pronto. (Of course, if this is what a wife truly wants and fully consents to, it's not my place to criticize.) However, I don't buy it when husbands who control their wives through DD say that they don't enjoy inflicting pain on them. There has to be a sadistic bent in the dominant's personality or he wouldn't be able to do it, at least to the extremes that so many DD bloggers seem to describe. Again, I don't mean to criticize anyone for their life choices. I just wish more of you dominant husbands would own up to your kinks and admit how much you really get off on physically hurting your wives.
ReplyDeleteIf you've read more on our blog you've seen that both Ward and myself freely own up to our kinks, which, as said above, is why when correction is necessary it needs to be a bit more vigorous than perhaps most require. I am also not one of those who will act out to get spanked, if I want it, I will ask for it (and yes, I do want it often). We have been together two years, and I have received correction exactly five times, so the implements above get very little actual use.
DeleteMy 'angel' status that we joked about here is not because I fear any of those implements, nor is it because I fear Ward. It is because I value him and our relationship and do not enjoy the distance that results from breaking our agreed upon rules and the code of conduct we have established for our relationship. Nor is it because he controls me. I am an adult woman fully capable of controlling my own behavior. I am a human. I make mistakes. Correction simply is the mechanism that we have established for reestablishing balance.
Ward is not sadistic, he does not take pleasure in inflicting pain beyond what I find enjoyable. He has never once broken skin, bruised me or caused me any damage, not physical, mental,or emotional. I have never once asked him to stop or cried as a result of physical pain. The fact is, correction is not much more vigorous than some of our play, the difference is the mindset that goes with it.
@Anonymous - if you knew anything about us, then you would know that June and I are both very love-motivated people. That being said, I would ecco the sentiment of June above. We both freely admit that we are a different couple that uses spanking in a way that is ALWAYS designed to enhance our relationship, our bound, our roles as man and wife, our love life, and each other. That has NOTHING to do with abuse, sadism, or wanting to feel superior to anyone in anyway. If you read this blog you would know that June is the most precious thing in the world to me. We are about love, and life and yes, we are also spanking enthusiest, we both came this way.
DeleteWe hold each other accountable, learn from our mistakes and grow as a couple thorugh the use of communication and mutual support.
Admittedly, I only happened on your blog from another site link, so I hadn't read more than a couple of entries. I wasn't trying to accuse you, Ward, of being abusive--the comment about thinking there are alot of closet sadists who practice DD comes from my reading other sites (like TiH) where wives describe punishments that seem more like sadistic beatings to me. (For example, the wife of a supposedly non-kinky couple was thrashed for over an hour by a cane and belt, and then the husband spent the following week rubbing ben-gay onto her bruises each night to make them hurt longer so she would learn her lesson. To me, this correction crossed the line.)
DeleteAnd June, I wasn't accusing you of being a doormat-sorry if it came off that way. (Although I don't know how the use of some of those implements on your butt hasn't left you bruised for days! I would be, but then I bruise easily.) I'm reading more of your blog now and getting a better understanding of your relationship. Sounds like you are very happy and meeting each other's needs, and that is all that matters.
Hi Anonymous - thanks for taking the time to find out a little more what we are about. In all honesty, the implements shown above have all been used, but with the exception of the two wooden ones shown, have not been used for correction. We used them in in GGs and my reaction was not favorable so he decided that they would only be used in correction spankings...and for ones that were serious safety issues (like drinking and driving....which pretty much ensures they won't be used because I don't drink; or texting and driving, and I'm not that dumb, lol, plus I usually have the boys when I am driving and that's a risk I will not take).
DeleteI have seen some things, as you describe, that hurt my heart. I cannot ... and would not presume to... speak for all women in DD relationships (though I could speak with confidence to the love that exists for my friends here), but in our little corner my Ward would never, ever do anything that would be harmful to my mind, body, heart or soul. He would never demean or demoralize me. Correction is not meant to be pleasant, but even in the face of correction I do not fear him, nor do I doubt that what he does, he does from a place of love with a desire for us to grow. For us, when it's over, it's over, it is not dragged out. The slate has been cleaned and we move on with a better understanding and without blame.
I am very happy - in a way I dreamed of and never thought possible. This is a man who loves and accepts me for exactly who and what I am, never even intimates that I could or should change, takes issue when I denigrate or blame myself...this is a man who warms my heart and let's me believe - proves I can believe in love and that it is not just a fairy tale.
Hello Anonymous - We are pleased that you have taken some time to further explore our blog. We also appreciate you taking the time to ask questions, and reach out to us with them. I accept your appology and would also agree with you in that there are some out there that do sensless, base and potentially harmful things to their wives in these relationships. We believe in each other, our relationship and the love that it thrives on. We believe in reciprocity, balance, love, grace all these kinds of things!
DeleteThat is one heck of and arsenal you have there kids!
ReplyDeleteBe good June! lol
Emma
lol, I try, Emma, I try, lol.
DeleteJune you lucky lady. I like the quiet ones although more painful to me they bring peace and calm to my brain quickly not my bottom though. a house full of kids sometimes just enough time for 20 or 30 swats is all we can fit in, but it brings peace and connection. Hugs Be Bad haha maybe a little
ReplyDeleteLOL,mmmm-mmmm, I like the GGs much, much better, lol. But like you, if stressed and pressed, a quick and dirty couple of real owwwws and a lovely cuddle does the trick :)
DeleteJune and Ward - well I'm speechless. I don't know whether I am speechless with fear or speechless with envy. Fear probably. They all look so ouchie! You are very brave June. But I suppose what is important is that you say you've only had cause to receive real discipline five times in two years. Even that is rather more than I would be happy with. It proves how far we have to go doesn't it?
ReplyDeleteUntil we started Dd towards the end of last year, I'd never been spanked, and Starman had never spanked. I'm still shy to admit how much I like it; but at the same time, I think we need to go slowly. Now I understand what people were trying to say about "quiet implements". Oh dear. And I stupidly thought those loopy things were what I should be looking for. Do you think it would be possible not to spank quite as hard with them initially? Just for when we need something quiet? Or maybe you have alternatives you could direct us to? Annie says 20 or 30 swats with a quiet one - that seems a lot for a really 'ouchie' implement? Can I ask you while I am about it - we took a half hour over our last role affirmation and one or two people thought that was quite a long time. It didn't seem that long to me, but I was mightily bruised afterwards, although the bruises have all but vanished already. So what exactly is the norm? I know I took a heck of a lot of spanks. But towards the end the bottom rubbing in between the flurries, was heavenly. Any advice from you or Ward would be gratefully received.
Must go, I'm taking up your time and blogspace.
Many hugs,
Ami
Hi Ami,
ReplyDeleteNo worries about taking up our time and blogspace,lol. And ask away.
Ward and I will be quick to say TTWD is not one size fits all, and there are really no formulas. It's what works for you within your dynamic. I will tell you that Ward spanks like I cook, till I'm done. There are signs, probably more readily visible in correction that you are 'done', the posture of your body (have you given over to the correction and are you fully submitted to it?), some women sweat (I do), less talking, some women cry (I may shed a tear or two during, but the real tears come sometimes before when we are talking about why we are here, and most likely after, when we have cleared the air and I am feeling his grace and forgiveness). These are things you will discover as you go along. Just keep talking, let him know how you are feeling, how it is affecting you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
As far as the what and how long, that's very individual too. We have had sessions that have lasted nearly two hours...don't faint....not straight out spanking... stroking my back, rubbing, laying beside me to talk, even pulling me into his arms and letting me cry for a bit. Basically what I said above, it is what works for you, reinforces your particular dynamic and brings you both to the place that you decide together that you want to be.
I wouldn't worry much about how much something hurts to begin with unless you need the pain, or an immediacy to the pain. If that's the case, I'd start as hard and fast as you need to to get you in the right head space and then slow down both intensity and force or you could get injured. You can make most implements 'gentler', though Mr. Studly is still generally in that unpleasant, difficult to endure category (you'll find implements you love and ones you despise) unless I'm already in that floaty place. Mentally, I can take a lot more when there is lots of rubbing and sweet words. It makes me want to offer more to him.
I would relax, sweetie, and not try to be anyone but yourself. Talk, talk and talk some more to Starman. Try different implements, maybe in your RAs play with intensity. Sometimes Daddy will tell me - "this is going to be a stingy spanking, lovey, you didn't do anything wrong and you aren't being corrected" - but at that moment it is what he and/or I needed to feel our places and wash away the stress of the day.
Hope that answers some of your questions, and hope you are not too disappointed that there is no real 'black or white' answer to give. Keep communicating and all your questions will be answered between you, as it should be.
(((hugs)))