I see beauty everywhere, I see it in the sky, blue and full of clouds, I see it in the forests so full of trees and green. I see it on the smiling face of children and in my lover's voluptuous form. Sometimes June has trouble seeing herself as I do. As I am sure you know, June's past has a lot to do with that. She is as beautiful and radiant as the sun and I am working hard to change her perception of what beauty is. I won't say it's the whole reason, but I think the media has significantly contributed to what I believe is an unrealistic and unobtainable standard of beauty for both men and women. I guess I've always had a unique and different mindset, but the beauty of human form is undeniable. The differences between us all are to be celebrated. Tall or short, light or dark, we are all a testament to design and shape.
She knows that I don't tolerate any self-disparaging remarks or down talk about herself. I think that a positive self-image is a important part of any healthy relationship, and even more so when that relationship contains elements of Domestic Discipline. I celebrate her beauty and grace in my life daily. The impact of her beautiful spirit, her kindness, her wisdom and grace are as potent and delightful as the sensual gift that her curvy form is. Every inch of her skin from head to toe speaks of my delight and the warmth that radiates (sometimes literally) from within.
We want to be the couple walking down the street that everyone notices... Not for the clothes we wear or the car we drive but the relationship. We want the beauty and light of our relationship to speak for itself. Being rich in family and spirit is something that we all delight in and we love to let it shine.
As for physical beauty, with everything else I guess there is just no accounting for tastes. June knows that I love her body, and that her body type is what calls to me.. I like curves, always have always will and as she gains confidence, I've noticed that June is becoming less afraid to use them on me! I find her increasing confidence sexy and marvel at how anybody ever found her less than beautiful. My tastes tend to run toward what was once considered classic. My tastes tend to run towards the curvy and the rubenesque...
A positive self-image is more than sexy, it's the foundation of confidence and pride. The beauty we carry inside is stronger and deeper than the world around us!
Her POV:
I have to tell you that I am sitting here with a raging blush, first for Daddy's effusive praise, and secondly because my boldness has been noted (of course I know he notes it, but to have it pointed out that I'm not necessarily as demure as I like to be....oh my). I am Daddy's girl, I am Ward's woman, and I enjoy expressing my love of and my desire for him in many ways.
When I am with him, this mundane world disappears, and the world we inhabit is a beautiful place - the landscape is verdant, the sky is azure in day, and a velvet midnight blue painted riotously with stars at night, beauty abounds and the air is fresh and sweet with botanical scents. When I am with him, my body sings, and I feel as elegant and beautiful and full of grace as any dancer that lights a stage afire with her passion. When I am with him I am who I always dreamed I could be. I am free and unfettered, and without limits.
When he is not here, when he is floating beneath the jeweled sea, I ache for the things that are but pale ghosts without him - and I work with all my might to remain worthy of our life and his esteem.
I don't know if I will ever feel beautiful to the world, but I feel beautiful to him, and that is all that really matters, isn't it? I love you, mo Rí.
I can relate to June's tricky self-image. It is hard when you don't have a Barbie-like body. I always said, a-typically sized (very petite, very tall, over size 16) women, apparently, aren't supposed to get married, be pregnant or look like they are under 70 years old because it is so difficult to find dresses/clothing. Thank GOD for Doms/Husbands/Daddys/Sirs like you (and mine) who love us the way we are. It's just YEARS of psychological brian-washing that has to be undone.
ReplyDeleteJuniebug, my friend, know that the truth of your beauty lies not in the reflection of the mirror, but in the reflection of your loves eyes. That is where I found my truth.
ReplyDelete(((hugs))) thank you, my faerie friend :) I am learning to see it, sometimes I look at him unawares, and what I see entrances me and makes me feel amazingly squiggly - you know how you feel when you are so dekighted that you need to wrap your arms tight around yourself yo keep from floating away? I still have my moments, but more and more I am not surprised to see it there, just pleased and counting my blessings.
DeleteSuch a lovely tribute to a beautiful woman. June, not only are you are well and truly loved, but remember that you deserve it. Any time you start doubting your worthiness, come back here and read Ward's tribute to you - a beautiful woman.
ReplyDeleteBlessings to both of you,
Cat
Thank you for your most kind words yet again, Cat. I am beginning to see it in his eyes and believe what I see and to delight in it. As he opens up more to me and tells me the things that I bring to him, I am humbled and grateful and better able to believe that I do enrich his life.
DeleteIt is deeply ingrained in me, but I am also humbled by Ward's diligence and gentle, loving guidance. This is a man who knows me so intricately that he knows exactly what my heart and soul need with every interaction. And the fact that he takes that time, and tries to know me, and cares to understand and give me what I need each time, it increases my belief in my worth in tangible ways.
Dia dhuit
i don't know why i can look at a man and think he's silly for thinking we're looking at their shape/physique. and yet can't apply the same thinking to myself.
ReplyDeletei blame the media. we should all just quit reading the beauty mags.
and i'm sure you're as beautiful as Ward claims you to be.
*hugs*
Awww, thanks Fondles. I definitely think the media is to blame, there is a Russian model Katya Zharkova who at size 12 is a plus size model who could not get a job in a regular show. This woman is GORGEOUS ( http://bit.ly/Ax6n1T), I would KILL to look like her and the fact that she is plus sized astounds me.
DeleteAnd yes, I've been pondering double standards for a bit - that may turn into a post. I have these negative thoughts and expectations regarding myself, but if Ward expresses that kind of a thought I wonder how someone so yummy that I love so much could feel that insecurity. In those moments, I am sure that he is sometimes entirely exasperated with me!
It is very hard if we don't measure up to the glossy magazines and Hollywood's version of beauty. Of course, those impressionable teen-aged girls don't realize all the hour and hours spent in the makeup chair and the professional stylist. Air brushing and camera angles too. Even as an adult who knows better, it is hard to not be discouraged by it sometimes.
ReplyDeleteWard, what a beautiful tribute to June. I know she'll treasure your words forever. June, please believe his words! Thanks to both of you for a heart warming post!
@SirQsmlb - I know it can be difficult for some ladies to except the praise that their man gives them, if I could I'd start a anti-media de-brainwashing campaign.
ReplyDelete@Faerie - June's beauty is universal, she is beautiful inside and out... her light shines bright!
@Cat - She is the most amazing woman that I have ever known!
@Fondles - Looking to the media for advice on beauty is like panning for gold in a shallow river full of dung... I wish ladies knew what REAL men thought.
@Cowgirl Up - Somtimes I tell June that my words ment more than a magazine and that my opinion of her appearance should matter more than the latest TV show, I try to be patient, but somtimes the media disgust me.
Michael won't allow me to speak negatively of myself either, whether it's in regard to my looks or whatever else I may not be happy with at the time. It's hard to unlearn that negative self talk, it becomes so ingrained. I really enjoyed this post though. :)
ReplyDeleteIt's so very hard, Grace. It is so deeply ingrained that I don't even think, and I certainly don't mean to be hurtful with it, but I see Ward's point, and it pains me now that I said it. I hope so seems such an innocent statement, but in context - shudders. That's why communication is so important. And I'm grateful he cares enough work through it. Thanks!
DeleteThis is a beautiful tribute from a man to the one he loves. And so true. Real life isn't retouched or artificially altered and when it is, we often find it has lost its ability to entrance us. When a man can say he has experienced all of you, and still pull you in as close as your bodies will allow you to become, then you know he finds you beautiful. That is a love to celebrate and a beauty to behold. Thanks for the smile, Ward and June.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your beautiful words, Lillie, and the food for thought. You made me cry. I am acutely grateful for, and in awe of this man that calls me his, and that I am privileged to call mine.
Delete@Grace - I am vigilant, and I am quick to tell her and show her how beautiful she is to me... everyday!
ReplyDelete@Lill Ian - She is my everything and thank you so much for such a sweet note.