The Gift of Time

                                                     

 There are 24 hours in a day. Just 24, no more, no less. Often it feels like there isn't enough of it to go around.  But, I would ask, Is there any gift more precious? The gift of one's time, passion, and energy are among the most precious gifts that we can give.  I think that's one of the things missing from many "modern" couples.  Sure we all have work to consider and then there is our own individual interest and stress to relieve. But there is one thing that I try to remain vigilant about.... that's love.  It's pretty easy to say that one loves another, but then again it's quite another thing to show it. Do I still go out with the guys after work and catch part of the game and take in a brew? Sure, but I also realize the value in giving people rain-checks and giving my family the time and attention that they require to grow.

                                                   

 It can be pretty easy to fall into a rut at times, or dare I say it... take each other for granted, but giving each other the time and attention that couples need.  Sometimes our domestic responsibilities and our schedules get hectic. Having two active school age children is a challenge at the best of times, but when you account for winter weather, the morning pokieness of our oldest, work, vehicles, people being under the weather, breakfast, lunch, bills, work  hmmm I'm sure I left some things out, but it's easy to see how even the most dedicated and vigilant could be overwhelmed and out of sorts at the end of a long, busy day.

                                                 

   

Sometimes the only real solution is to make time. No, I'm not a wizard and I realize that not everything is as simple as all that, but sometimes making the time to do even something just small can have HUMONGOUS benefits.  That's where it falls on us guys.  As an HoH I feel that it is my duty to assess the situation in the home, monitor stress and fatigue levels and when necessary to make time for my children or my woman when it is clear that they  need me to do so. My suggestions?  Kick her out of the kitchen and finish dinner, Take the kids out for a while so she can have a few hours to herself. Take the laundry basket from her and tell her to put her feet up and relax. 

                                                                                         

Sometimes making time means saying no to friends, canceling plans and knowing that sometimes  the best thing to do is to do nothing... No, no, I'm not sure you understand, nothing.  Sometimes nothing is disastrous, sometimes a weekend  of relaxation, and snuggling on the couch can be more productive than traveling too and from, running around like chickens without heads, and generally adding stress to the two days of the week where stress just don't have  a place.

                                                                    

Sadly, I can't just add 5 more hours or tack on two more days to the week, but what I can do is be attentive to my lady and her needs, spend time with my children and use what time we do have to bolster and nourish our ever-tightening bonds and feed the spirits and minds of the ones I hold dear.  I would encourage you all to find a way, or make a way to give each other and your families the attention that they require, need, deserve, and thrive from.  Who knows what you will discover?  Who knows what priceless moments are just waiting to be had?   Let each discovery you make bolster your efforts to be the best you can for each other.... Time's a wastin'

                                                               

Her POV: 

 There IS no greater gift we can give to each other. We all understand that principle with regard to our children. Better to give them your time, to show them they are worthy and valuable, than to buy all the latest gadgets. Why then would we give less to our families and to our partners? As our time nourishes our children, increases intimacy, increases trust and communication, so it does when we devote time to each other and to our relationships. When we give the gift of time, we also give the gift of understanding, we give refreshment to the soul, we relieve and wash away stress and strip away the world and all the things that do not belong and give shelter, safe harbor to our loved ones and let them be their best and most authentic selves.

The positive effects of a good spanking

Have you ever sat and considered the impact of a evening devoted to a good, thorough spanking and  earth-shaking love-making and pleasure?  Normally this is something that we probably wouldn't talk about here, but the potential benefits are worth discussing and using.  Throughout the time that June and I have written this blog, we have come to understand that several folks out there are... what's the term?  "spank-nos".  Even still, when we consider the impact that stress can have, we must understand the value that a good firm spanking can bring to the table.  I tell June all the time and I think it's worth repeating here.... Good girls get firm spankings too, it helps them stay good, and in combination to deep, truly connective  intimacy that  smooths away the aches and stresses of the day and bring us to that special place that can only be reached by a man being intimate with his woman.  Stress relief spanking require a lot of forethought and communication. It should be made clear that this is not correction or punishment, but in fact a conduit for relief and rebalance through the vigorous application of positive and direct energies.  It also becomes necessary to find (or make) time to get the most out of this carefully considered time.




 Making love is clearly an important part of any healthy relationship. I think some people don't realize it's true value and in some instances, might minimize or underrate the worth of spending quality time giving and receiving pleasure from our partners.  There is something very spiritual about making love, in addition to the sights and sounds that make our blood boil and our passions rise, it seems only fitting that sex can open many doors, heal many wounds, smooth over feelings and reconnect after periods of heightened stress and emotion.  The true value of physical release is in the freedom it brings, us.  Less talking, less thinking, passion and unconditional embrace - these things are always important.



The following section is just a series of suggestions.  We'd highly recommend trying one or more of these out!




 If you don't already June and I would highly recommend establishing a "Date Night".   Find a sitter, have the kids spend the night with Grandma etc... Go see a movie, go watch dinner, Redbox it, go bowling, spend some time laughing, and celebrating the unique bond that you share.  Spend some time giving her a bubble bath or a pedicure and really spend some time pampering her... Relaxation is the key here.









Before you give her the spanking she needs, spend some time spoiling her, talk to her, let her know that she has your complete and undivided attention. When the time comes, take her in hand and give her the spanking she needs. By the spanking that she needs, I mean take the time to observe her, know her body language and the weight of her heart... Drive out the stress and take the time to show her that this is as important to you as it is for her.  No distractions, no half-hearts only pure and unblemished love.  Hold her close, let her emote, and let the stress vanish with the conviction of your hearts.

Give her the time she needs to  feel it, hold her in your arms and be there for her. Leave only room for love and light..... Kiss her slow and soft, and then let your love for each other and your bodies do all of the talking.







We think spanking can be a very useful and wonderful part of a healthy relationship. Even in the context of pleasure and stress relief we find new meaning and a wonderful use of time and passion. We recommend it!



                                            

Her POV:
When I suffer stress, or when I suffer emotional pain, I need to be spanked. It is a way - for me - to take the emotional pain and transfer it to flesh - and poof - all gone. A calm relaxed girl who can move through the day without the heaviness in my heart, not feeling guilt if I feel I have been short or less than I wish to be, or my heart is just not where I like it to be. At those times the greatest gift he can give me is the gift of release.

I am a very fortunate girl. Daddy is very sensitive to my mood. And generally he will approach me and whisper in my ear that he knows what I need, and that he will take good care of me...and he always does. Other times I may text or email him at work, and tell him I need his help when he gets home. And sometimes, it's simply a way for us to reconnect after a long week of chores and responsibilities, school - his, mine, the boys'  - for me to feel his delicious control, and for me to be able to bend. That for me is heaven, that puts my brain in that light, dreamy place. It lets me relinquish the negativity that seeps in, and absorb Daddy's love and light. It lets us start fresh and rejuvenated. And it lets this insomniac sleep sweet and undisturbed. For that gift, for his attention and devotion, I am grateful.

Spoiling, Pampering, Relaxation...

                                              
I think one of the things that June and I both really enjoy about each other and our home is comfort. I look around and see comfort as a somewhat underrated concept today. There is something wonderful about cool, rainy days spent next to each other on the couch and in each others arms.  I'm a big man, I'm sure you've heard June reference this a couple of times, I am what you call built for comfort. I workout to keep myself in shape, but I'll be honest, I'll never be the poster boy for the ab rocker.... I was born to be a big guy and in so, I think I have a deeper appreciation for comfort, (enjoying it, causing it, etc) than most. I love  the warmth that comes from reading sitting up in bed, the way her head feels on my lap, or the way my head feels when it rests upon her breasts.  


I love to pamper June   (No not like that!!!)  In all seriousness though I love treating her to experiences that soothe the senses, hone her arousal and to showcase my devotion, dominance and loyalty to her and our relationship.  I am always looking for new ways and ideas to do this, but sometimes the classics are the best.





                                                          







                                          




                





- Manicure/Pedicure
- Full Body Massage (couples massage)
- A candle lit bath
- A relaxing spanking (yes, they can be quite soothing at times)
- I love to cook, so I love making her favorite meals and desserts (even the edible kind!)


                                           
      




                                               



Attempting to spoil June has become something of an obsession for me. I really do think it further enhances an already incredibly strong bond. I know every inch of her from the the longest hair on her head to the tip of her little purple-painted toes.  Every day offers a chance to enjoy each other in a full warm way that celebrates the comfort that we bring each other that has nothing to do with material things, or the latest and greatest gadgets or toys.  It's the rain on our roof, it's walking barefoot on the beach... It's watching the kids rake the leaves in the yard into a giant pile only to jump in them.
  
                                                              


I would encourage you to do something comfortable this weekend. Guys, give her a foot rub, and take the kids for a few hours. Ladies, rub his back and bring him his favorite snack... cuddle together on the sofa after the kids are in bed and watch a movie... or just talk like we do. It will be time well spent..I promise!



                                                                    
                                                                        
Her POV
I love doing things for Ward, as you may have gleaned from the pages of this blog. I love to make his favorite meals, I like to have things ....well at least semi-orderly (c'mon 2 active boys - this will never be Better Homes and Gardens, lol). I like him to walk home to clean laundry and a hot meal - he works hard. I enjoy how he wraps the little things around him, really appreciates the efforts that I make, like the mantle of love they are intended to be.

Believe it or not, I have never been pampered till Ward. I have given many a massage and never been given one until Ward. I have never had time to myself, like he provides. I've never been commanded (love you, Daddy) to go and do something for me and stay out of the house till dinner - that he prepared. I've never had anyone say, give me that dust rag, give me those dishes, you go read/take a bath/have some you time. It has taken some getting used to, this reciprocity.

Our children see it, they love it. And I love what it models for them. It models how to be a man, a gentleman, how to treat a lady, how to have a relationship and reciprocity. How to have a joy that it has taken me a lifetime to find.

Oh, and Daddy does indeed make the most luscious Chocolate Peanut Butter Pie, and chocolate macadamia nut brownies that are the perfect apres spanking treat ;)