I would like to talk a bit about spankings... It seems the very word itself makes my mind, body and spirit react. Spanking is definitely a integral part of the life that June and I share. We use spanking for many purposes, and indeed it finds much meaning and fills several different niches within each of us.
For me it is as easy and natural as walking or breathing air. June has a taste for spanking that matches and if you can believe it nearly surpasses my own (nearly)... and with such a beautiful bottom how could I resist?
Truly spanking is a feast for the senses the crisp sounds of flesh against flesh (or wood, or leather or other material) the soft scent of lavender (eau de June) and of course the beautiful sight of cheeks reddening and bouncing across the knee... indeed friends it is quite stimulating to say the least.
Spanking enthusiasts, also called "spankos" often find unique ways to incorporate spanking into their lives and relationships, some of the classic reasons for spanking within a relationship include
- Domestic Discipline
- Erotic Play or Exploration
- Corrective Punishment
- Motivation
- Fun
- Role Play
- Just Because (One of our favorites)
In today's world there are so many resources (keep your eyes peeled, we'll post some links here soon)
that make spanking safe and accessible to those interested. I would encourage you all to give spanking a try in your lives and relationship. June and I would be more than happy to answer any questions that you may have (feel free to drop me an off-line message). We have found that spanking is a healthy, creative lifestyle that has many wonderful benefits, benefits that include
- A Strong, Lasting Bond
- A Healthy Libido
- Substantially Fewer Disagreements or Arguments
- A wonderful exploration and appreciation of each others body, mind, and spirit
And I could go on and on, but point is, spanking enhances our love and brings us even closer together and with a little discussion and trial and error I am quite sure it can do the same for you! Let us know if we can answer any questions!
Her POV:
Mmmmmmhmmmm, what he said! I should probably explain how Daddy and I met. We both belong to FetLife.com. I had pretty well come to the conclusion that there was no one whose particular kink matched mine. Face it, in the wide world of BDSM, the spanko is a fairly tame beast.
Like the more secular Facebook, FetLife lets you see what activities your friends engage in. One of my friends commented on one of Ward's writings, so I checked it out. It was perfectly lovely, and I dropped him a note, just to tell him that I found it uplifting. (Yup, I'm the weirdo who calls a store supervisor to say they received great service, or a restaurant to say that a meal was superb - I believe that people complain, but are too lax about giving praise. It's one way to spread grace.)
He responded and we struck up a friendship, and found lots of things in common. And little did either of us know it, we were connecting on a very deep level. I had no idea at that point that I had a little, and struggled shortly after that, coming to terms with that, but Ward saw it. and he drew her out. And it was nice to be unguarded with someone.
It was also lovely to share my hunger for physical sensation with Ward. I have craved spanking from a very young age. It's hard to find someone who shares that. I'm a very lucky woman to have Ward. Yes, it plays many roles in our life. Our favorite is the just because - the sun is shining, the day ended in "y", I sneezed - don't need a reason. It just feels good. And the spiritual connection is amazing. Then there are the days Daddy has a bad day at work, or I am so stressed I could scream. It helps to ground me. It helps me to feel my place, it helps me to feel Ward's authority, it helps me to feel Ward's love - he loves me enough to give me what I need. Erotically, wow, what can I say? The mere thought of being across Ward's lap does wild things to my body.
The discipline and corrective aspect, well that is part of any DD relationship. It's necessary, and I am grateful that Ward does not let me put distance between, that he loves me enough to pull me back, even when it is hard for him to do so. Yes, folks, discipline and correction is difficult, for the D-type as well as the s-type. My only wish is that even when it's hard that I can submit to Ward's wisdom with grace. Thankfully, those times are few and far between. Cause it's too much fun to be so serious all the time!
I love the first picture - so motivating, I have a copy of it on my wall.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Hermione
Thanks :) I've seen it around, and even, believe it or not on a couple of 'nilla/Christian sites! Aside from Daddy's hand, I am partial to wood it seems, though I like a smaller paddle, cause nothing beats being across his lap - sigh -
DeleteI love your blog & was quite excited that you stopped by, and left us a comment!
Just popped over from Bonnie's blog to say hello and welcome.
ReplyDeleteI think I agree, small paddle and OTK can't beat it, though I prefer leather.
Love,
Ronnie
xx
Mmhmmm, I love Daddy's belt & the Sinner (from cane-iac). Really curious about some London Tanner's stuff - tawse &domestic discipline strap - but they're still wishlist items, lol. Thanks for stopping by, Ronnie. We hope to see you again!
Delete"Our favorite is the just because - the sun is shining, the day ended in "y", I sneezed - don't need a reason. It just feels good."
ReplyDeleteI love the because I sneezed line. It fits with how Monster and I are. When it comes to the spanko, I don't function right without spankings. Call it maintenance spankings, if you will. They help keep both of us balanced out.
As always, lovely piece of writing. :)
Me, too! As I said in the latest post - Daddy was gone 4 days by the last day I was insane. It just lets you let everything go, and center - I've seen the phrase to reset, I kinda like that. Clears out all the junk, pushes all the crud of the day to the side and justs connects you both. Heaven!
ReplyDeleteDoes this really work? I recently married my husband and he's talked about spanking but I havent' come around to it outside of "Fun" in the bedroom. He works 4 weeks offshore and 2 weeks home. I seem to lose my mind when he is gone and thinks this may help. Humm...
ReplyDeleteIt works for us, Anonymous, as a disclaimer - everyone's mileage may vary :) For us, and you can read out latest post where Ward explains more, it helps us in all kinds of ways, but it is mostly a facilitator for uncommon communication and closeness.
DeleteGreat blog you two!!
ReplyDeleteDaddy Jack uses corrective/learning spankings on my bottom to help me achieve my goals, the most important is to be a happy and content submissive wife.
He never punishes me because I would never break any of the 4 Ds in Domestic Discipline.
But he happily keeps me on track with 4-5 small spankings a week!! :0)
Thanks, Jill :)
DeleteI'm very much with you, it pleases me to be pleasing to him. I'm not one to break the 4Ds, but some of our smaller personal rules, mostly dealing with self-deprecation, and I admit that I have had a few...VERY few moments of being less respectful than I would like to be. But Daddy is quick to fix that so that I can get back to where I like to be. We do maintenance often as well, it keeps things purring along, and allows us to feel our respective places :)
I'm here doing a little catch up in getting to know you. I absolutely LOVE this post - especially how it tells a little bit about your beginning. And I really enjoyed what you each shared from your own pov. *sigh
ReplyDeleteWhat spoke to me was:
From Ward: We have found that spanking is a healthy, creative lifestyle that has many wonderful benefits, benefits that include
- A Strong, Lasting Bond
- A Healthy Libido
- Substantially Fewer Disagreements or Arguments
- A wonderful exploration and appreciation of each others body, mind, and spirit
From June: It was also lovely to share my hunger for physical sensation with Ward.....
Our favorite is the just because - the sun is shining, the day ended in "y", I sneezed - don't need a reason. It just feels good. And the spiritual connection is amazing.
My hubby is not a spanko but I'm thankful that he's willing to do this with me. We definitely are feeling more connected already - I can only hope that someday he'll yearn for it like your hubby does. But for now, I'm extremely happy.
:) Cali
Thanks, Cali. I absolutely LOVED your story of "The Talk". I think it's awesome that he is willing to gift you with what you desire. That is what DD/TTWD is all about, reciprocity and service, balance and communication, and treating each other with grace and respect.
ReplyDeleteBut something may happen along the way, as he discovers his Dominance. Daddy says no red blooded man can resist the sight of his woman vulnerable, across his knee. He may just find his own inner spanko :) The connection cannot be denied, and people look at you as though you shine when you are out and about, and we do kind of have our own inner light, us couples who would do anything for the one that we love.
((((hugs)))