tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post5934373523447045234..comments2024-01-02T10:58:06.466-08:00Comments on The Dish with Ward and June: The No-Shutdown RuleJunehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-79504935869861816932013-01-24T17:32:23.718-08:002013-01-24T17:32:23.718-08:00@ Everybody - Thank you so much for reading we are...@ Everybody - Thank you so much for reading we are glad you took the time to read and share with us! Letting each other in is definatly a necessity in a healthy relationship. We continue to work togeather everyday to ensure that our love is evident even when things aren't easy or comfortable! Please forgive the late response and the mass reply this week has been crazy. Thanks for tunning in once again and being part of our chosen family!Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03099210740931720121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-22117605917260986002013-01-24T08:12:50.024-08:002013-01-24T08:12:50.024-08:00interesting post gives a lot of food for thought interesting post gives a lot of food for thought Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-5995787586236781042013-01-22T15:11:00.348-08:002013-01-22T15:11:00.348-08:00Thanks so much, Annie, so glad you enjoyed it...he...Thanks so much, Annie, so glad you enjoyed it...he's got a fine mind :)<br /><br />(((hugs)))Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-22001454909084027822013-01-22T15:10:08.974-08:002013-01-22T15:10:08.974-08:00Oh and I can so relate to the not understanding wh...Oh and I can so relate to the not understanding what is wrong, Emi. It's the worst feeling, all widgey inside and no way to explain it. We understand that happens now, so I can tell him I feel bad and he'll do what he can to make me feel better, and wait patiently till I can tell him. <br /><br />Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-33005750453106350712013-01-22T14:04:37.184-08:002013-01-22T14:04:37.184-08:00Great post Ward and June. Thanks so much for shar...Great post Ward and June. Thanks so much for sharing your lives with all of us. HugsAnniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12409300680541773011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-67332071193500719882013-01-22T12:04:19.599-08:002013-01-22T12:04:19.599-08:00I can totally relate when you say that it was safe...I can totally relate when you say that it was safer to shut down.. I have been at that point, or used to be and sometimes revert BACK to that... it's hard to break through and communicate, but worth it all in the end.<br />Shut downs are not allowed here, but I can ask for time.. time to understand myself maybe, because sometimes I feel the shut down coming, and I'm not sure what's exactly bothering me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-52089275890627790772013-01-22T09:48:05.057-08:002013-01-22T09:48:05.057-08:00Did I ever tell you that his writing is what broug...Did I ever tell you that his writing is what brought us together in the first place? He is beautifully expressive. I know that I am learning and growing and my voice is finally heard, and I am glad that I he finds the same thing in me.Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-8608618852276729902013-01-22T09:45:32.128-08:002013-01-22T09:45:32.128-08:00I think that's one of the very best things we ...I think that's one of the very best things we do .... well our guys do ...... well no - we BOTH do for our relationships (lol) is to not allow that silence. That kind of stuff doesn't go away without coming to an understanding - no that doesn't always mean agreement. It means being heard, respected and understood by our partners. Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-68592299885133178292013-01-22T07:04:19.567-08:002013-01-22T07:04:19.567-08:00"I've never been in a relationship that m..."I've never been in a relationship that made communication so easy...our love won out and I found my voice." That particular sentence just stuck out to me...really sums up your relationship beautifully! Tesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10536577215955884713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-8227753792191684642013-01-22T05:13:45.368-08:002013-01-22T05:13:45.368-08:00Thanks, Roz :) It's something that does take e...Thanks, Roz :) It's something that does take extraordinary effort but it surely pays off with extraordinary returns. It's that closeness we all talk about and treasure.<br /><br />(((hugs)))Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-33738132935398842972013-01-22T04:22:02.496-08:002013-01-22T04:22:02.496-08:00No shutdowns allowed here either and while it can ...No shutdowns allowed here either and while it can be really hard at times, it's good for both of us.Susiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00511114118020790717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-19800744739336267522013-01-22T00:29:14.209-08:002013-01-22T00:29:14.209-08:00Another excellent post Ward and June and another g...Another excellent post Ward and June and another great message. Communication, and being open and honest with our feelings is something we have found that has improved a lot, but is something we continue to work at.<br /><br />Hugs<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-90945225335937462952013-01-21T20:43:21.467-08:002013-01-21T20:43:21.467-08:00Thanks, Dana, and thanks to the Man for reading.
...Thanks, Dana, and thanks to the Man for reading. <br /><br />They are very hard to break, it's how I survived. But that's part of submission (at least that's what I keep telling myself.... makes it a little easier to give it up, lol).<br /><br />Never alone, Dana :) We're always here, either here or by email, I might not always have insight, but I can always listen...Daddy,too.<br /><br />(((hugs)))Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-31625775258136191142013-01-21T20:40:32.147-08:002013-01-21T20:40:32.147-08:00Oh it is hard, mouse. It's natural for me at l...Oh it is hard, mouse. It's natural for me at least, to want to hide, to believe that my thoughts and feelings don't matter. It takes a lot to submit this to him, but it's worth it. <br /><br />(((hugs)))Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-80401243133577344622013-01-21T20:39:38.142-08:002013-01-21T20:39:38.142-08:00Thanks, Hez :) He's good, yeah? :D
(((hugs))...Thanks, Hez :) He's good, yeah? :D <br /><br />(((hugs)))Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-90819473441596193642013-01-21T20:22:56.280-08:002013-01-21T20:22:56.280-08:00I have to say, You both are amazing. The Man has ...I have to say, You both are amazing. The Man has been reading your site. I have seen so much of myself here. When things in our childhood/past create patterns that are distructive, they are very hard to break. The Man and I are growing more everyday and I so appreciate you both sharing here, so that we don't feel like we are alone..Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13148756931282483079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-36621976855783247682013-01-21T20:22:09.218-08:002013-01-21T20:22:09.218-08:00Honestly what a wonderful rule. It's funny be...Honestly what a wonderful rule. It's funny because this has been our unspoken rule for almost a year now. It's hard, but totally needed. <br /><br />Hugs,<br />mousemousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17837530120535693314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-48159166679422318632013-01-21T19:34:57.107-08:002013-01-21T19:34:57.107-08:00Wow fantastic post, and your insights are so very,...Wow fantastic post, and your insights are so very, very helpful (from both of you}<br /><br />Hugs to you both<br />Hezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10045994566818889148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-57329818630426336332013-01-21T19:17:57.137-08:002013-01-21T19:17:57.137-08:00*grins* It just brought back some of our own strug...*grins* It just brought back some of our own struggles. And we're happy to share if someone can glean something from our process. Glad you found something in it that helped :)<br /><br />(((hugs)))Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-51036066021571632522013-01-21T19:16:10.125-08:002013-01-21T19:16:10.125-08:00Thanks so much, Saoirse. It was something we had t...Thanks so much, Saoirse. It was something we had to work through. Initially he did view it as distancing, but once I explained that I wasn't pulling away - I was still there,hand in his, just not ready to verbalize yet. He understands now that I need that time to filter the knee jerk reactions. <br /><br />I'm glad it helped:)Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-891298339125847192013-01-21T18:29:27.848-08:002013-01-21T18:29:27.848-08:00Thanks, abby. We mistakenly think those walls prot...Thanks, abby. We mistakenly think those walls protect us, but when they come between us and our one, all they do is keep us from something wonderful. I'm afraid I was a lot of work for Daddy, too. Glad he is as diligent as your Master :)<br /><br /><br />(((hugs)))Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-91209265768428966672013-01-21T18:28:45.454-08:002013-01-21T18:28:45.454-08:00Well Miss June we have talked at length about this...Well Miss June we have talked at length about this topic :) Thank you for sharing your insight!<br /><br />Ward - Thank you for sharing your wife with me over the last few days in particular. Your knowledge is so very valuable to John and I and we so appreciate you taking the time to give us advice and help us navigate ttwd.<br /><br />Hugs to you both<br /><br />PAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-64508997693623803562013-01-21T18:23:45.274-08:002013-01-21T18:23:45.274-08:00Thanks for sharing this. Sometimes in these blogs...Thanks for sharing this. Sometimes in these blogs the reaction to 'distancing' confuses me-but this helps clarify-sometimes I DO need a minute to get myself in a place to share respectfully. Sometimes I need more than a minute-but that doesn't have to mean distancing-thanks for helping me see the difference.Saoirsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17902009529171140806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-64041285174911204832013-01-21T18:19:19.285-08:002013-01-21T18:19:19.285-08:00Thanks, Cat. Thankfully Ward doesn't let it ge...Thanks, Cat. Thankfully Ward doesn't let it get to that stage. He's pretty vehement. We'll have things that have been resolved where we don't remember the conflict, but the lessons learned. But there is never a conflict unresolved long enough to forget why we were upset. <br /><br />Thank you :) I am very fortunate to have a most excellent leader, and I am honored to follow wherever he leads us.<br /><br />(((hugs)))Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8497106283340212317.post-55260506511159939502013-01-21T18:09:05.838-08:002013-01-21T18:09:05.838-08:00Thanks very much, sunnygirl :)Thanks very much, sunnygirl :)Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03940211128244967387noreply@blogger.com