Monday, September 17, 2012
How does it feel?
Daddy gave me an assignment today...to write something fun and spanky - sigh - my head is still full of weekend yummies and ....well it just wouldn't do to share that.... I DID close the door after all. He gave me a few other assignments as well...I'm not especially inclined to share those either. C'mon, I love you all, but I'm just a shy, old-fashioned girl after all.....okay, a slightly kinky, shy, old-fashioned girl.
So I decided to write about the human brain...JUNE! That's not fun! Stop your pouting, now.... we'll make it - well at least interesting.Have a little faith! Have I ever misled you?
'Sexiest Part of the Human Body'. And research 'indicates that holding your partner’s hand reduces activation in those brain regions that govern emotional and behavioral responding to threat responses, to a greater degree than holding either no hand or the hand of a stranger.' I'm sure you've noticed in the images on this blog that I have a particular fascination with hands. Ward and I always have our fingers interlocked - in the grocery store, driving, watching tv, when I am across his lap (even if you like it who doesn't feel a little fight or flight when it gets really intense?), when we make love. So that particular scientific finding makes just tons and tons of sense - in the context of Ward and I at least.
Sexual arousal, and in fact the act of falling in love, are functions of our reptilian brain, it is a function designed to ensure propagation of the species. What does that mean? Means we cannot control when we become aroused, and we cannot control the act of falling in love. As with all other neurological functions, they are initiated and controlled by neurochemicals, dopamine in this case, which when we engage in activities that ensure species survival turns on our reward circuit. Dopamine also is the 'gotta have it chemical....the more we engage in survival activities (eating, drinking, propagation), the more we want, the more we need, the more we seek.
When we are aroused or stressed (yes, ladies, this explains why spankings help for stress relief!) our bodies also release norepinephrine which depletes serotonin. The deep touch of spanking, of being held firmly provides proprioceptive input, which raises our serotonin level. The spanking also releases oxytocin, a natural pain reliever and the brain chemical behind bonding and staying in love. It is also called the cuddle or bonding hormone. Men are also affected by adrenaline, testosterone and vasopressin (a hormone essential to orgasm).
Now the way our brains function, is to embed this sensory input into our reptilian brain as memory - this touch means that you will get feel good hormone soup! This could also explain bratting to a certain extent, especially if you are reluctant to admit that you need or enjoy being spanked. You will engage in behavior that will bring the stimulus that you crave and will bring the desired neurochemicals and emotional bonding. I myself have no compunction against asking.... I know, I know...
How does it feel? Exquisitely pleasurable. He comes in, you hand him a drink, he feels honored, by the simple act of submission. His hand may go to your hair, which he will fist, and pull you towards him and own you with his kiss.. The process of arousal begins in both of you with endorphins, and then our amygdala is triggered and we are on auto-pilot. A soft breath across his lips, a soft look from under the lashes of lowered eyes. The growl - Mine! The whisper - yes. Teeth on your neck, you bare your neck to him. He speaks, you respond. It's a lovely dance.
He spanks one spot ferociously, leaving you squirming, moves to another, your hand snakes back, not to deflect, to take his, he laces his fingers with yours, and continues to redden his target. When you are panting, he bends, kisses, speaks softly of love and pride, and his hands soothe and minister and the pain is forgotten, when he starts again, it is as if he starts anew. Then you dissolve into each other and minister each to the other, and fueled by your biology, your love and your bond and your attachment deepen.
How does it feel? It is exquisite, you are owned, you are safe to yield and be vulnerable, you are a bundle of pleasure, both emotional and physical. And the place you go to, together, is insular and of your own making. And you want to do it again and again and again....
A touch of lust, a sprinkle of science, a dash of heat and great big gobs of love and laughter... What June has described is our potent and heady recipe for a loving home and a harmonious, loving relationship. When she gives me the bright and shining gift of her submission it is like a kiss during a downpour, like a chocolate cake in a thunderstorm, and like the most seductively sweet thing I've ever known. Her body sings to me and mine calls to her, our minds meld and we both gain so much from our communication and unity. I become more addicted to my lady every second...